Week 65 - Destiny

Destiny is unknown to any of us. We can plan all we want, but if its our destiny to live a certain way, we cannot change it.. The Prophet once said "What has reached you, was never meant to miss you.. and what has missed you was never meant to reach you..." Somehow this seems a more appropriate topic of discussion this week in our show Kuch Rang Pyar ke aise bhi.

I must confess first that this blog took the longest time to complete, because.. I kept going back to see the part of the show I was writing about, so that I can get the dialogues right. And then, I ended up engrossed in the show every time, as if it was the first time.. Such an endearing set of episodes this week.. 

After Dev overheard maami asserting to Ishwari that her relationship with Sonakshi is just the same as before, he became very disturbed. When the week started on that note, I was disturbed myself. Why cant this woman Ishwari see the goodness of Sonakshi even now - even after Sona risked her own life with an evil person like Khatri just for the sake of Ishwari... But then, I also realized that it is not so easy to leave aside the bitter feelings you have accumulated against a person for so many years, just in return for a favor... However, this whole incident of Khatri definitely has brought changes to the equation between her and everyone else..

Ishwari - Dev

Ishwari's act of getting the Prenup signed without Dev's knowledge surely strained their relationship. And Dev was able to openly express his disappointments to Ishwari after that fateful night 7 years ago. All these 7 years had been nothing but hell for Dev and Ishwari. However, the arrival of Suhana in Dev's life mellowed him down and he was able to put aside all the bitter feelings he had for Ishwari and was able to genuinely share with her, his happiness of becoming a father.

Their relationship was already beginning to strengthen with Suhana around.. The Khatri incident has only helped to deepen this mother-son love. Ishwari always was worried that Khatri will be a big villain between her and Dev. But to her relief, this whole incident has ended up strengthening her bond with her son! The reason for this is not just Sonakshi. Even though Sona was instrumental in solving the issue, the biggest relief for Ishwari is that Dev, as a son, has never disappointed her at all! Even when he had to face the bitter truth that Ishwari stole jewelry in order to meet her financial needs, he did not lose any love or respect he had for her. The instant she realized this - her insecurities became completely invisible. There was no reason for her now to fear that Dev might one day, leave her behind.

This is a huge change in the equation between Dev and Ishwari. It was almost as if she freed Dev from the chain of possessiveness that was tightening him. For Dev, there is probably no change in the love he feels for his mom. But for Ishwari, this love is different from what she felt all these years. It was only because of this change, that she was able to acknowledge Dev's request to express their gratitude for Sona and her family by calling them over for dinner. Ishwari was not aware that the dinner will open up many more doors that she had shut down all these years.. 

I think, there cannot be a better way to resolve any relationship issues, than a dinner for the two families together. There is a saying that "All great changes begin at the dinner table"! 😊

That night, she saw Dev with a new set of eyes and she realized that Dev's happiness is not just because of Suhana, but also Sonakshi. But Dev, in fact, did not even tell Ishwari directly anything about how he felt for Sonakshi. How was Ishwari able to recognize his happiness this time, while in the past, she was not able to understand it, even when he deliberately expressed it? The reason is very simple - that she broke the unnecessary bondage between her and Dev.

This is the Ishwari that Dev thought he will have when he told her years ago that he was in love with Sonakshi.  Now after so many years and so many tears, he was able to finally see the mom that Ishwari truly was. I enjoyed their conversation after maami was scolded by Ishwari. The clarity of thought in that conversation is something that I cannot appreciate enough. "Every person we meet in this life has a purpose that binds them with us... Sonakshi's purpose was to show Dev what Love was, when he was very very lonely. But Dev was unable to sustain that Love and he let her go.. But their destiny was such that they should meet again because of Suhana.. And Suhana showed Dev how to sustain Love and nourish it.." This open conversation further enhanced Ishwari and Dev's relationship. 😊

It is Dev and Sonakshi's destiny that they should share this life. It is Suhana's destiny that she be born as this couple's dear child. And it is Ishwari's destiny that she get salvation to her sins through Sonakshi. In whatever direction fate might take us, we all have to reach the place we are destined for!

Ishwari-Maami ji

Because of the confidence, Ishwari now has with her relationship with Dev, she was even able to withstand the negative influence Maami ji was trying to force on her! This whole week, I got lot of thrills when maami got ignored/brushed away!! These thrills were much more interesting than even DevAkshi scenes. 

As a human being, Ishwari is always someone that respects others, whoever they are. Her relationship with maami ji is always based on the regard that she has for her brother. As her brother's wife, she has, forever respected Radha Rani and given a lot of importance to her advices. With the new set of eyes, that Ishwari now has, she was able to clearly see right vs wrong and was able to stop Maami ji from overpowering her emotions.

I was reminded of this tale about Good and Evil. Once an old man told his grandson "son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil - it is anger, jealousy, resentment, ego, lies and inferiority.. The other is Good - it is joy, peace hope, kindness, humility, empathy, truth". The boy asked "Grandfather, which wolf wins?". The old man quietly replied "The one you feed". Our destiny is shaped by us. If we feed the Evil, we are sure to reap only grief and sorrow in the end. If we feed the Good, we can reap happiness and joy. The decision is ours! I think Ishwari is wise enough to make this decision now. 😊

Ishwari, the woman - Dev's mom Ishwari

Even though these two roles are played by the same person, there is a subtle dual personality that is within this main character. And this week, we got to experience how one personality got separated from the other..

Ishwari's conversation with maama ji pretty much summarized the change that Ishwari was experiencing. This was probably the best scene this week. Again, the dialogue writers must be highly appreciated! "When I was just Ishwari, I could see the goodness of Sona.. now also am able to see how good she is.. But when I looked at her 7 years ago, as Dev's mom, I somehow failed to notice all her goodness.. and was too unfair with her.. I had a feeling of fear about something.. about how my child will leave my hand and hold on to Sonakshi's instead.." - This realization in Ishwari is only due to the fact that she let go of the chain binding her and Dev. She was able to see how her son is much more mature than her and she understood that "maturity" does not come by just counting our years and growing old...

Another interesting part this week in this aspect, was the way she defended Sonakshi in front of the new family that maami ji brought out of nowhere! I think, Ishwari surprised herself with her assertiveness in answering Maami and the supposedly prospective "bride" of Dev! There was a huge clarity of thought in Ishwari's choice of words! She did not hesitate even a bit to take Sona's side and highlight her talent and responsibility in bringing up Suhana, single handedly. Just a few weeks ago, we saw how Ishwari criticized Suhana's "perfectness"! But the realization that she is experiencing now, allowed her to appreciate Sonakshi.

When Ishwari was able to clearly see the difference between her own two personalities, she was able to adore DevAkshi, just like us!! Ishwari saw Dev and Sonakshi looking into each other's eyes with love and Dev helping with Sona's hurt feet. The old Ishwari would have probably walked away and would have muttered to maama ji "uski paas Dev hai" (Remember the time when Dev was applying medicine to Sona's feet during Diwali?") But this new and reformed Ishwari was able to look at them and even long for them to be together again! The family selfie was another wonderful scene! The way Ishwari looked at Sonakshi with affection was worth a million dollars! 😄

They say when you wish for something with all your heart, then the Universe conspires to make it happen! If Ishwari truly wishes for Dev and Sonakshi to be together, won't the Universe help her? Wont their destiny bring them together? ❤️

Ishwari-Bose family

In Bose family, there is friendship. The person is more important than their relationship! Which is the exact opposite of the Dixit family. Here, the relationships have always been important. Its because of that, a person like Vicky was given a role to play in the Ishwari communications. He being Ishwari's brother's son was the only qualification he had! Its only because of the importance given to relationships, was maami able to make Ishwari dance to her tunes. And this was the reason why Sonakshi was never seen beyond being "Dev's wife". Sonakshi's goodness as a human being was never even noticed by any of them. Her individuality was never given any importance. 

Bijoy's one sentence gave this clarity to Ishwari "Kabhi kabhi hume lagta hai ki Saurabh hamara damaad hai our Ronita humari beti" It was because of the "friendship" that was shared in the Bose house that they were able to look at Ronita as their own daughter. Honestly, Ronita will also say that Bijoy and Asha are her parents more than in-laws... 

Now, Ishwari will be able to clearly understand the reasoning behind Dev calling Asha as "Maa".  These are not things that Dev or anyone else can explain to her...This has to be a self realization process..And the makers have done a great job in portraying it as a "self realization" instead of someone advising her.. 😊

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Talking about makers doing a great job, I must say that the lead couple are going through a very pleasant change themselves..What started off as a Boss-Employee relation, changed to friends, lovers, husband-wife and later drifted apart, lost in emptiness. 

Their equation in this new phase, started to change a couple of weeks ago. And right now, they are in the beautiful stage of "Best friends" once again 😊

Sonakshi has been a very balanced person from the beginning. More importantly, she is not someone, who will talk ill about a person behind their back. So, when Dev told Sonakshi that Ishwari took the medicines as soon as Sona left the room, without any hesitation, she defended Ishwari and tried to look at it from her POV and told Dev how difficult it will be for Ishwari and even her own dad to forget the past in a short time like this...Dev, on the other hand, is a business man. "Strategic planning" comes naturally to him.  He constantly looks for solutions to problems and I am sure, even though he looked convinced at Sonakshi's answer, he was only thinking of how to resolve the coldness that Ishwari and Bijoy still feel. The dinner plan for the two families, was his strategic solution..

There is that issue in his mind, and then there is also a constant need to correct things between him and Sonakshi. His guilt quotient is pretty high and he is unable to express it all in one shot.. In this phase, every conversation between Dev and Sona is very pleasant and they both put a lot of effort in acknowledging that things are not the same between them. Caring for each other comes naturally to them and to underplay their emotions is a conscious effort for both of them. This phase is also beautiful because of the secret admiration and subtle expressions and the sweet care and belonging...❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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Some really wonderful moments this week are..

1. When Dev was mesmerized by Sona's beauty in the Bose house, as she was getting ready for the day. The background dialogues elevated the beauty of this scene - "When I see you, time stops and even my brain stops working for sometime.. Why do you confuse me? Why are you so perfect Ms.Bose?" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😍

2. When, later in the week Sonakshi expressed how much she missed him in the last 7 years by a simple statement she said in the Dixit house garden.. "I tried to make a similar garden in Kolkata..but it wasn't quite like this.. 'cos there was no one to share it with me..." The dialogue writers have a very key role to play in this show! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

3. The Video conversation between Dev and Sona, of course reminded us of the many past video calls, especially the one with the trimmer. It was magical because, there is still that need to look "presentable" for Dev in front of Sona... And that need for Sonakshi to dress well before meeting Dev! ❤️ 

4. Their scenes, when the light went off in the Dixit house also brought back many old memories! ❤️😘

5. Ishwari's conversation with maama, maami, bijoy and asha were all very important for the story to move forward. 👌🏻👌🏻

6. Lastly, Sonakshi teasing Dev for his hair and goonda look was perfect!! It totally echoed all the fans. I like Shaheer however he is. Clean shaven look and trimmed hair will soon come, I am sure.. Now that Sonakshi has expressed it, Dev will make it happen! 😄

There is a lot of discussion that Ishwari's redemption is too soon and too easy..and a lot of speculation that Ishwari might not have felt the same way if Suhana was not born. Ishwari's realization is due to the fact that Sona was ready to go to any extreme to save Ishwari from Khatri's clutches and Dev will never let go of Ishwari under any circumstance. Suhana was not even in the picture of Ishwari's change and therefore Suhana's presence or absence will not have impacted the change Ishwari feels towards Sonakshi.. I feel that the reaslisation is also not rushed. Its a series of events and thoughts that are contributing to this change. Obviously, we are going to experience lot of resistance from maami ji and even Bijoy probably, in the coming weeks. We will also get to see Ishwari's heartfelt conversation with Sonakshi soon. The question will now be, how strong is Ishwari... how much can she sustain the negative influences that surround her.. and how much is she willing to adjust, in order to see Sona and her family as her own..😊

The change in Ishwari, according to the recent promo, is going to motivate her to bring Dev and Sona together. But the main difference will now be that Ishwari will not look at Sonakshi as a toy to satisfy her son's needs. She will now be able to look at Sonakshi as a woman, as a human being, as a mother and as a girl that her dear son is in love with, head over heels.💑

Fate separated Dev and Sonakshi that unfortunate night... But if their destiny is to live together happily forever - then who can stop it? ❤️