Saturday, July 1, 2017

Week 70 - After every dark night, comes a dawn...

This is probably the one thing that we hear the most from our friends and family, whenever we go through a tough time.. Its the most common way of consoling, but yet has a strong healing power. Our brain believes whatever it hears, good or bad. Thats why consoling is very important, even though everyone might say the same thing..As our brain hears more of the same, it will start to believe that things will become better. πŸ˜Š

This week in our show, it was about the sisters that Dev lost when he broke up with Sonakshi. Dev had distanced himself from any source of light and dwelled in darkness.. And this week is about the dawn that has come in his life..


We spoke a lot last week.. about men being the weaker sex and how they cannot handle the stress of life all by themselves...  I don't want to dwell much in that topic, except a small reminder about Dev's take on keeping his family happy. Long ago, just before Sonakshi got into an accident, she and Dev spoke about many things as they walked together.. Of all the things, I remember the part that Dev said about how easy it is to handle business and employees.., but much difficult to handle family members. He said about how he always tries to keep everyone happy and content but often disappoints someone or the other...There are many stories about professionally very successful men not having any interest in their families. Dev is a person who loves his family, while being super successful at work. Dev was a pillar to his family members before Sona's arrival. For him, his mother and sisters came before anything else, and he was even unaware of his own needs.. But with Sona being around, he started recognizing himself and his own needs in life. He was so happy and thrived better than ever, in Sonakshi's company. But, when he lost Sona, he lost himself πŸ˜’ And he was unable to go back in time and become the Dev that existed 8 years ago πŸ˜’ He got so used to Sona's company, that he had forgotten how to live without her πŸ˜’


Now that Sonakshi is back in Dev's life, he has begun to see the light finally at the end of a never ending dark tunnel.  And with the light, he is also slowly acquiring the power to once again become the superhero brother of his three lovely sisters. All thanks to Sonakshi.. for mellowing Dev in the right way.. so that he can become that super hero! Even though I was haunted by Sona's perfectness initially.. I got some clarity with Ishwari's comparison later on this week of "sautΓ©ing the onion the right way in ghee" to "Sonakshi mellowing down Dev"..πŸ€“


Sonakshi confused me right at the beginning of the week. She had a problem long ago, about Dev not doing his own work.. right? Her advice to do his own work.. and not depend on his mom.. was so inspiring that I started to cultivate it in my home. With great difficulty I have now made sure that my husband folds his own clothes.. keeps the laptop in its sleeve.. charges the phone.. etc. I have even started to educate my son to do his own work, so that a Sonakshi doesn't come in his life later on and call him..mamma's boy.  But now, Sonakshi is doing everything for Dev??πŸ€” Although, Dev helping out in getting the kids ready for school is super endearing..❤️ Sona doing everything for Dev.. totally confused me.. I quickly fast forwarded that scene.. so that my husband doesn't see it and go back to his old ways.. πŸ˜¬πŸ˜‰


Sonakshi has always been the "go getter", "fix it all", "perfect" woman. She is such a woman who cannot live in peace when there is someone upset around her. She always loves her family and friends immensely and will do anything to make sure everyone is happy. She calling Ria and the other sisters was bound to happen sooner or later, given that the Dixits are her own family, now. Eleena being her sister was quick in judging Sona's intentions.. and I also really liked Sonakshi tell Eleena that she was trying to fix her family.. It was good to see Sona take some ownership for whatever hardships that the Dixits went through all these years. The uniqueness of Sonakshi, unlike the other TV show heroines is the way she acknowledges her mistakes as well.. in her own.. less dramatic way..πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»


Coming back to Ria, her take on the whole Dev-Sona breakup and Dev's isolation was correct.. Ria never did anything against Sonakshi and so, the question of Sonakshi forgiving her doesn't arise at all.. And for all the indifference that Dev showed towards Ria, her staying away from her brother is completely justified from her point of view. At the same time, Ishwari's advice to Ria about forgiving the mistakes of the family members is also very true. Riya's entry in the show, gave us all, a clearer glimpse of the emptiness that Dev experienced in those dreadful days without Sonakshi.


Thinking about that emptiness of Dev, reminded me of the time after the first breakup of DevAkshi. There was a huge void that time in Dev's life and he was struggling to pull through every single day.. be it at work or home. I remembered how he would come to the coffee shop, completely griefsticken and longing for Sonakshi's company πŸ˜’πŸ˜’ Today, to see him at his same favorite spot, with his favorite person gave me a lot of happiness πŸ˜„πŸ˜ And during that conversation between Dev and Sonakshi, I realized how much he is now in tune with Sona. Earlier he would try to convince Sonakshi to look at the problem from his angle. However, he is now able to see problems and its solutions from her angle. He is now able to share his views, without stopping Sonakshi from sharing hers..His acknowledgement of Sona's efforts to meet his sisters while also cautioning her to not take things personally, in case it did not go as planned, was a clear representation of the changed DevAkshi. πŸ˜Š


Just like the coffee shop, the garden talks are also very memorable for the all the DevAkshi well-wishers and slowly in our show, we are getting back all those moments. "Mein woh film bengali me kya.. english mein bhi nahi dekh saktha hoon" was πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚  The Begali movie discussion reminded me of the Regional language award winning movies that would be telecast in Doordarshan on sunday afternoons.. During those days, we would hardly be able to understand those movies and I remember sitting in front of TV trying to make some sense of the dialogues.. and eventually only falling asleep πŸ˜‚ I don't know how many KRPK viewers belong to that generation.. Satyajit Ray movies used to come a lot in that slot πŸ˜Š


Again in that garden conversation, the changed DevAkshi equation was quite evident. They assured that they are each other's partner and priority πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ» Sonakshi made a promise once again of not ever letting go of him..πŸ™πŸΌπŸ‘πŸ»


While DevAkshi were exploring this new equation they have now acquired.. Ishwari was also exploring the new person that she identified within herself! If there is one thing in the show that gave me a lot of pleasure other than the DevAkshi togetherness - its Ishwari's urge to find an identity for herself. A very unique and much needed approach for the Saans-Bahu stories of today πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»  Women these days are multi talented.. Many of them are able to take care of their family and kids, while also having a flourishing professional career. I am not one of them. As soon as I got the news that I was pregnant, I gave up my 10year old IT profession. I wanted to enjoy the motherhood in all its true sense. Now, after 10 years of break, I am trying to get back to work and Ishwari's this new avatar is very motivating for me. I am not as old as Ishwari. But I echo all her thoughts about earning.. about having our own identity.. etc. While family and motherhood is important, its also important that we find our own identity other than the "household" duties. In fact, that was the motivating factor for me.. to even start writing this blog.. to do something for myself... that belongs to me.. just me...


Its needless to say, Supriya has very easily adapted to the role of this new Ishwari. Her conversation with the kids Golu and Soha.. about her job while bringing up her own kids.. was such a treat to watch.. There are always many useful lessons for the kids in this show πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ» - to look at every job with respect and to treat every person equally irrespective of whatever job they do. This is apart from the plenty other thoughtful things shown - like mom and dad are equally responsible for getting them ready to school in the morning.. telling lies is wrong, etc..


Ishwari looking to Asha for guidance and support also added a good flavor to the show. This growing bond between the two ladies will probably be very useful..later on.. when Dev and Sona's relation is tested more by circumstances. I have great expectations for Asha's book. I have a feeling that this book will become another beautiful character in our show.. Asha's own career as a writer is also very inspiring for the older generation of women.. who want to have an identity for themselves.


Asha, is a representative of the modern day "senior citizen". Ishwari belongs to the olden days and in order to achieve something in the present, she needs a bridge to bring her from her time to the present time. No-one else, other than Asha can do that job effectively. She is the probably the only person of the "older generation" who can appreciate the ability of the younger generation of mingling and adjusting with all age groups πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜


Talking of Ishwari's change, I also totally loved the way she admired Dev and Sona doing things together.. The dialogue "Har rishte mein ek pyaar bhari dhoori honi chahiye" was the crux of this changed version of Ishwari ❤️ She now knows where to draw her limits and where to go one step closer.. - when Ria came to the Dixit home, Ishwari turning back to hold Sonakshi's hand along with Ria's is that "one step closer" I am talking about ❤️


The Dixit sisters are very used to being under the loving care and protection of their elder brother. Their bond was much more than any normal brother-sister bond, especially because of the "father" role that Dev played in their life. And when all of a sudden, they lost that love and care, it came as a big shock to all the sisters. Our show did not explore what happened in the Dixit home and the Bose home, soon after the breakup of DevAkshi. We saw a little bit of Dev-Ishwari conversation, thats all. Whether the sisters tried to help him get out of depression, is not something we know fully. So, I don't want to get into that territory. However, I do strongly agree that the sisters should have come to their dear brother's rescue at that hour of need and should have done whatever it takes to get him back on track.. even if it meant going in search of Sonakshi.  Well.. may be they did and failed in their attempts.. we don't know.


Ria's reunion with her Dev bhaiya and her mom was the most emotional part of this week. All Ria wanted was the love and acknowledgement of her brother towards her. One step from Dev made Ria take multiple steps towards him and her family πŸ˜Š❤️  Shaheer, as usual did a great job executing the role of the emotionally overwhelmed brother! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»  I also really liked the way Sonakshi compared relationships to magnets... of how they come very close very quickly.. when we go in search of them.. It was lovely to watch the genuine happiness in Sonakshi's face for Dev and their family. And Erica did a good job especially in that scene, trying to fight those happy tears! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»


Nikki's reunion with her family may not be as easy as Ria's.. especially because of her age. I would say that in the last 10 years, the world has changed so much! People born in the 70s and even early 80s have become too old to be in tune with the wavelength of this generation.. "Live in" seems a lot  to digest for me. However, I completely welcome this track! Its wonderful to see our show going into this new untouched territory in the world of TV, without ruining the charm of True love and committed relationships.


I can empathize with Nikki, for the most part. Sonakshi had a very special relationship with Nikki much before she started having any feelings for Dev. So, after the breakup, it was not fair on Sona's part to have completely ignored Nikki. Nikki was much more than "Dev's sister" for Sona. I liked how Nikki very clearly said "Aap sirf Dev bhaiya ko nahi.. hum sub ko chodkar chali gayi...aur itne saal me ek baar bhi nahi contact kiya.. ab... mein busy hoon.." From Nikki's side, she was quite right. Except the fact that as much as she blamed Dev for turning away from his sisters these past 7 years..she should also appreciate all the things he did prior to that, for his sisters... Dev's conversation with Sonakshi was perfect on this topic.. "Itne saal hum nahi te.. Laksh ne uski saath dhiya..teek hain. par.. usse pehle jitne saal woh humare saath thi... uska kya?" Well.. with the younger generation.. its always a tug-of-war for the parents.. Thats why parents of all generation are always worried and scared for their "Teenager kids"..  But I am sure that just like Sonakshi indicated.. once the hatred comes out, then all that will remain in Nikki's heart will be just Love and nothing else. Nikki will start to realize Dev's helplessness during those 7 years and will also start to see the problems from Sona's angle.. that she couldn't have obviously been in touch with Nikki alone.. while turning away from all the memories of "Dev Dixit"... Nikki was always the darling of the Dixit home and Dev's unborn child.. Its just a matter of time, before Nikki will come running into Dev's arms :) Dev seeing Suhana and Nikki in the same way was a very classic touch to the relationship that this brother-sister shared πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»❤️


I have mixed opinions for Laksh.. but its too early to judge him. He is a cool dude.. no doubt! 

App developer - lovely profession for the modern day youth. Video game lover. Does not like to be overwhelmed with "sentiments" and "emotions" and tries to put a strong foot against these. His discussion with Dev and threatening him with police complaint was probably a repulsion, he was showing towards family sentiments that makes Nikki sad..If it was just this much, then I am ok with it. I just hope he is not another Ayaan.. trying to manipulate Nikki for the money of the Dixit kingdom..

But, even if Laksh is after the money and not Nikki, I am sure he cannot succeed. Because, the Dixit empire is not built out of money and riches alone.. Its built out of Love, compassion and above all acceptance and forgiveness. Thats why Dev, inspite of knowing that GKB and Vicky are materialistic, does not ever think of getting rid of them..but rather embraces them warmly with love ❤️


I understand that this week has been very difficult for the fans, especially with the "never-ending" guilt cycle of Dev. I saw one of the fans tweet that Dev has pretty much asked sorry from every one, except Jassi. I am also not enjoying it.. However, thats the uniqueness of this show - that it explores new untouched areas of the TV serial world. It explores relationships from the different angles of "Love"... without focusing on revenge.. It subtly shows us the self realization and redemption.. without dwelling on emotionally pouring out and begging for forgiveness.. This phase is the realization that Dev's long dark night is finally coming to an end and there is a dawn awaiting him with open arms.. in the form of his own BIG family that he cherishes.. Therefore.. be a little patient until the Sun comes up fully :)


There is always this ongoing complaint that Sonakshi is shown to be "perfect... too perfect"!! I admit that this "perfectness" is sometimes.. too sweet to digest. But then, those are the times, I tell myself that TV shows are very women-centric and they glorify the women little more than the reality. We have to take it with a pinch of salt. We got to see Sona telling early on this week to Eleena.. "Kahi na kahi. in sab me..meri bhi galati thi..".. So, we got to see her guilt as well.. Its not as pronounced as Dev's.. because Dev is always the more expressive of the two.. isn't he? He is very open about his feelings..be it love, anger, or whatever he is experiencing.. and then.. its played by Shaheer.. so needless to say the impact he has on us is enormous..πŸ˜„πŸ˜❤️ Erica fans, don't get mad at me. She is a great actor.. Absolutely no doubt and has been doing the role of Sonakshi exceedingly well.. But.. hey I am a Shaheer fan. Its only natural that I like him more πŸ€“❤️


Looking ahead..

- I am eagerly looking forward to Ishwari shaping her new found career..
- I am also eagerly looking forward to Nikki's realization of her never-diminishing love for her dear brother and her entire family..
- Laksh.. please be a good boy.
- Neha..if you decide to show up, please take Sonakshi's side..
- Maami.. now that Dev has conquered you with his unconditional love, please be nice to "his" Sonakshi.. and keep a tab on your son..so that he does not try any stupid trick on DevAkshi..
- My lovely trio Golu-Soha-Aaru.. continue to shine on with your innocence and continue to amaze us with your angle of "Love"
- I am looking forward to seeing the big grand dinner at the Dixits with the whole family soon.. talking about cricket match and politics and GST πŸ˜‚

350 episodes and there is still so much to talk about ❤️!! Kuch Rang pyaar ke aise bhi.. πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»




3 comments:

  1. Hello! A very good morning to you.
    You have spoken of a dawn and here was my dawn& morning made beautiful by your blog. Like I keep watching the episodes of KRPKAB again and again especially the current ones, I keep reading your blogs again and again . I am so much in love with them.
    I loved that part when you said you "fast forwarded that scene--- so that my husband doesn't see it & go back to his old ways" It was ROFL words.
    And this" It subtly showsus the self realisation & redemption without dwelling on emotionally pouring out & begging for forgiveness " by Jove how beautifully explained in such few words the concept of self realisation & redemption. You have brought out the quintessence of human relationships so admirably well. In fact heart of hearts I was wishing for a real harsh redemption for Ishwari . You have quitened my heart and mind as regards this redemption angle. You couldn't have explained it better , nor the makers s done a better justice to the much debated redemption track.
    Thanks once again to this wonderful blog. I too belong to the generation of watching the regional films on Doordarshan Sunday afternoons. No wonder, so much of affinity with you.✋️🀝
    Love and regards

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  2. @saipriya thanks for your compliments dear. the process of writing the blog is not complete until it reaches the audience n they like it.. thanks for giving me that assurance every single time 😊

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  3. Awesome writeup as always! And the way you observe things and describe from your own perspective is completely flawless. Well doneπŸ‘πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘πŸ‘

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