Being brave is not the ability to move forward without fear..Its the ability to move forward inspite of fear. It is the ability to recognize that something else is more important than fear..
Our show dwelled on this topic predominantly this week! The different characters from the little kids to the adults showed their bravery in some form or the other!
The week itself started on a neat note from Jatin to Dev about being brave. About how men generally like to overpower women and that Dev was brave in making this decision of staying in the Bose home. One part of it was right that it is a male dominated society. But Dev was never chauvinistic ever! Yes, its a different matter that he favored his mother more than his wife. But chauvinism was not his trait. Yet, I will agree with Jatin and compliment Dev for showing bravery - because, he chose to be in the Bose house inspite of knowing that he will be treated with much disregard and disrespect there. Most of the time, we end up showing bravery when we have no other choice but to be brave. He was brave and came to the Bose house only for Suhana. Period.
It was praiseworthy to see the way Dev defended Sonakshi and the Bose family in front of Rounita's mom. And I was awestruck to see his sentiments about "Love" even after he himself was deceived by it. The comparison of "Love" to pure water and "bad attitude/negetivism" to salt that gets dissolved in pure water and spoils its purity was worth a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the dialogue writers! True.. And I hope that Dev will handle the salt(s) of the Dixit home the same brave way he handled Rounita's mom.
Every one of us go through several points of decision making in our lives right from childhood. And all those situations build the strength in us. Suhana also displayed her strength that day by telling Dev confidently that she knows that her papa cannot steal ❤️❤️. That trust that she had in him gave him enough strength to carry on with his mission at the Bose house.
Even though the bose family is not his own anymore, because of the bond he now has with Suhana, he considers Bose house as his own family! Bijoy blaming Dev for stealing the jewelry was no surprise for me, because Bijoy is always impulsive, especially in matters of Dev. Dev taking the blame of robbery for the sake of Saurabh-Ronita only showed the basic personality and character of Dev - which is "whatever it takes to keep his family happy".
Even though Dev tried his best to mingle with everyone for the sake of his daughter and even though he tried to ignore all the disrespect he got there, Bijoy and Sonakshi only pushed him further and further I must say. The times that he retaliated, made his relationship with them only more bitter! But yet, he continued to stay strong in his mission of being there for his daughter's sake and started to concentrate on Suhana and her interests.
However, standing between him and his daughter was the "third" person Jatin. Even though Jatin is not related to the Bose family, he is related to Suhana and Sonakshi emotionally for reasons beyond Dev's comprehension. The fact that Dev was able to live in the same house without harming him in anyway was by itself a big brave step for Dev, as he always gets to extreme measures to express his possessiveness.. It was a very heart breaking day when he made the fish dish for Suhana. Even though Jatin did not do anything on purpose, he literally blocked Dev's path to his daughter's heart 😒😢 And I was again upset with Jatin for doing that to Dev.
However I had to just quietly accept his presence, as Sonakshi explained Jatin's role in her life when he almost became a father to Suhana in terms of caring for her and by giving Sonakshi the much needed moral support.. Well.. its only fair that Suhana loves Jatin uncle dearly.
To be a father is much more than being the bread winner of the family. Who will know the importance of father than our own Dev Dixit, who had lost his papa at a much much younger age.. Dev has his own daughter Suhana today. However, he had played the role of a father much before, to his sisters. He has played the role of a "moral support" to his mother much before. He had always been the candle of his own family (his mother, sisters, mama ji). But the million dollar question is, why did he fail to do that exact same thing - why did he fail to care for, protect and stand up for Sona in a way that she will not feel a need to walk away from him. The answer is simple - that he did not see Sonakshi different from him. To him, he and Sona were just one. Whatever he did, he assumed Sona will also do. 😞
And thats where he went wrong and thats where most of the men go wrong..to think that women (especially their wife) are the epitome of sacrifices and that they don't need anything for themselves.. Often times, many women end up having no identity for themselves after marriage. And those women that fight for an identity for themselves are seen as rebels and a person that intends to break the family! I don't know whether Sonakshi did the right thing by going away from Dev 7 years ago, as I personally don't believe in breaking relationships. But at that time, for all the injustice that she had to go through in the Ishwari nivas, that seemed to be the right thing and the "brave" thing to do from Sona's angle.
A dear friend of mine, who studied with me, is going through a rough personal life right now. I have known her as a carefree teenage girl and we both share many sweet memories of that age. We hardly knew at that time, that 30 years later, we would have gone through so much in our life. I have seen her then and I see her now and I know how much of a rock she has now become and it truly breaks my heart to see her like this. Over time, I have faced many challenges myself and have changed in my personality as well. However, when we both are together, even if its only for a few moments, without our own conscious knowledge we somehow relive a bit of those teenage days every time and smile in that beautiful moment. My friend has definitely put her brave foot front and have somehow been cruising successfully. But in that process she cant deny that she has tightened her heart and spirit a lot which has overall changed her personality.😒
When Sonakshi came to know of the blame that Dev has taken on himself to save Saurabh-Rounita's marriage, she brought up a very valid argument of "families" marrying each other and not just the couple and how their own marriage failed as the families did not accept each other. But she did not stop with just that. She went on to say many unpleasant things that indirectly were aimed at Ishwari and Dev's family in general. Although I am in agreement with most of the accusations of Sona, I was just disappointed at her tone and the words she used. Especially after knowing that Dev has done something good for her brother's sake, I thought she will be a little grateful for Dev..😢
For some reason, it reminded me of the time Mr.Dixit broke Sona's phone thoughtlessly just because she silenced his phone.. (as she did not want him to be disturbed while having a good time with his sister).. And for a moment I felt how Sonakshi has turned almost into an Abhodro these days!
When we don't have a choice in our life, but to be brave, we somehow will build courage within us and do what we have to do. But it will surely take a toll on our personality. Sonakshi's state now is a result of her disturbed emotional state for the last seven years and het utmost need to face it all alone and bravely..
And it was a super coincidence that Dev said almost the same thing to Sonakshi that night..that she has become an Abhodro!! So much has happened to both of them and have changed them to an extent that they probably cant recognize themselves!! Because of the circumstance that separated them, it is extremely important for Sonakshi to prove to him that she can be much more successful than him in everything! And because of that attitude of Sona, Dev's comment of "I only pity you Sonakshi, for your state today" obviously irked her more.. and the series of things that happened this week was because of this bitterness between them, that was only becoming worser by the day.
It pushed her beyond the boundaries of the basic character of the original Sonakshi! The reminder from Asha about Dev being "Suhana's father" was much needed and Sonakshi's heartfelt apology and acceptance of her side of the fault brought some relief to the growing stress!!
Probably because of this, she behaved very normally when Ishwari came to meet Dev and Suhana. I was quite disppointed with Ishwari when she again tried to prove to herself and to Sonakshi that Dev is still a "mamma's boy" and she is proud of that!! I just wish that Vaishno Devi somehow gives her some kind of divine blessing by which she can become a mother like Asha or atleast like me...
The show that once started with the love between a son and a mother has now branched into several forms of love.. When love is challenged, it takes a detour in order to reach the person that its meant for! To show courage, to be patient and brave is extremely important, especially when the detour is long and tiring!! Its a wonderful experience to watch this journey week after week! I have come to realize that no-one is perfect. But their feeling of "love" is more than perfect. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Many scenes this week are worth mentioning -
- Especially all of the scenes of Asha. The makers have taken a great deal of care in keeping this character consistently beautiful 👌🏻👌🏻.
- The relationship between Rounita and Dev that blossomed so nicely, after the helping hand Dev extended to her relationship with Saurabh! 👌🏻👌🏻 Their phone conversation was awesome! 😬🤓
- It will be the least of compliments to say that Shaheer has done exceedingly well portraying the multiple roles he is currently playing - a loving father, an extremely demoralized son-in-law, almost a numb husband, and a genuinely caring brother in law 👏🏻👏🏻❤️😍
- To cap it all was the sequence between Dev and Bijoy for the flawless drunkards that they were and for the serious emotional message in an extremely hilarious way 👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻
- Finally, a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the makers for showing the complexity of human relations and love in an interesting and positive way.
Kuch Rang Pyar ke aise bhi 💓
Our show dwelled on this topic predominantly this week! The different characters from the little kids to the adults showed their bravery in some form or the other!
The week itself started on a neat note from Jatin to Dev about being brave. About how men generally like to overpower women and that Dev was brave in making this decision of staying in the Bose home. One part of it was right that it is a male dominated society. But Dev was never chauvinistic ever! Yes, its a different matter that he favored his mother more than his wife. But chauvinism was not his trait. Yet, I will agree with Jatin and compliment Dev for showing bravery - because, he chose to be in the Bose house inspite of knowing that he will be treated with much disregard and disrespect there. Most of the time, we end up showing bravery when we have no other choice but to be brave. He was brave and came to the Bose house only for Suhana. Period.
It was praiseworthy to see the way Dev defended Sonakshi and the Bose family in front of Rounita's mom. And I was awestruck to see his sentiments about "Love" even after he himself was deceived by it. The comparison of "Love" to pure water and "bad attitude/negetivism" to salt that gets dissolved in pure water and spoils its purity was worth a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the dialogue writers! True.. And I hope that Dev will handle the salt(s) of the Dixit home the same brave way he handled Rounita's mom.
Every one of us go through several points of decision making in our lives right from childhood. And all those situations build the strength in us. Suhana also displayed her strength that day by telling Dev confidently that she knows that her papa cannot steal ❤️❤️. That trust that she had in him gave him enough strength to carry on with his mission at the Bose house.
Even though the bose family is not his own anymore, because of the bond he now has with Suhana, he considers Bose house as his own family! Bijoy blaming Dev for stealing the jewelry was no surprise for me, because Bijoy is always impulsive, especially in matters of Dev. Dev taking the blame of robbery for the sake of Saurabh-Ronita only showed the basic personality and character of Dev - which is "whatever it takes to keep his family happy".
Even though Dev tried his best to mingle with everyone for the sake of his daughter and even though he tried to ignore all the disrespect he got there, Bijoy and Sonakshi only pushed him further and further I must say. The times that he retaliated, made his relationship with them only more bitter! But yet, he continued to stay strong in his mission of being there for his daughter's sake and started to concentrate on Suhana and her interests.
However, standing between him and his daughter was the "third" person Jatin. Even though Jatin is not related to the Bose family, he is related to Suhana and Sonakshi emotionally for reasons beyond Dev's comprehension. The fact that Dev was able to live in the same house without harming him in anyway was by itself a big brave step for Dev, as he always gets to extreme measures to express his possessiveness.. It was a very heart breaking day when he made the fish dish for Suhana. Even though Jatin did not do anything on purpose, he literally blocked Dev's path to his daughter's heart 😒😢 And I was again upset with Jatin for doing that to Dev.
However I had to just quietly accept his presence, as Sonakshi explained Jatin's role in her life when he almost became a father to Suhana in terms of caring for her and by giving Sonakshi the much needed moral support.. Well.. its only fair that Suhana loves Jatin uncle dearly.
To be a father is much more than being the bread winner of the family. Who will know the importance of father than our own Dev Dixit, who had lost his papa at a much much younger age.. Dev has his own daughter Suhana today. However, he had played the role of a father much before, to his sisters. He has played the role of a "moral support" to his mother much before. He had always been the candle of his own family (his mother, sisters, mama ji). But the million dollar question is, why did he fail to do that exact same thing - why did he fail to care for, protect and stand up for Sona in a way that she will not feel a need to walk away from him. The answer is simple - that he did not see Sonakshi different from him. To him, he and Sona were just one. Whatever he did, he assumed Sona will also do. 😞
And thats where he went wrong and thats where most of the men go wrong..to think that women (especially their wife) are the epitome of sacrifices and that they don't need anything for themselves.. Often times, many women end up having no identity for themselves after marriage. And those women that fight for an identity for themselves are seen as rebels and a person that intends to break the family! I don't know whether Sonakshi did the right thing by going away from Dev 7 years ago, as I personally don't believe in breaking relationships. But at that time, for all the injustice that she had to go through in the Ishwari nivas, that seemed to be the right thing and the "brave" thing to do from Sona's angle.
A dear friend of mine, who studied with me, is going through a rough personal life right now. I have known her as a carefree teenage girl and we both share many sweet memories of that age. We hardly knew at that time, that 30 years later, we would have gone through so much in our life. I have seen her then and I see her now and I know how much of a rock she has now become and it truly breaks my heart to see her like this. Over time, I have faced many challenges myself and have changed in my personality as well. However, when we both are together, even if its only for a few moments, without our own conscious knowledge we somehow relive a bit of those teenage days every time and smile in that beautiful moment. My friend has definitely put her brave foot front and have somehow been cruising successfully. But in that process she cant deny that she has tightened her heart and spirit a lot which has overall changed her personality.😒
When Sonakshi came to know of the blame that Dev has taken on himself to save Saurabh-Rounita's marriage, she brought up a very valid argument of "families" marrying each other and not just the couple and how their own marriage failed as the families did not accept each other. But she did not stop with just that. She went on to say many unpleasant things that indirectly were aimed at Ishwari and Dev's family in general. Although I am in agreement with most of the accusations of Sona, I was just disappointed at her tone and the words she used. Especially after knowing that Dev has done something good for her brother's sake, I thought she will be a little grateful for Dev..😢
For some reason, it reminded me of the time Mr.Dixit broke Sona's phone thoughtlessly just because she silenced his phone.. (as she did not want him to be disturbed while having a good time with his sister).. And for a moment I felt how Sonakshi has turned almost into an Abhodro these days!
When we don't have a choice in our life, but to be brave, we somehow will build courage within us and do what we have to do. But it will surely take a toll on our personality. Sonakshi's state now is a result of her disturbed emotional state for the last seven years and het utmost need to face it all alone and bravely..
It pushed her beyond the boundaries of the basic character of the original Sonakshi! The reminder from Asha about Dev being "Suhana's father" was much needed and Sonakshi's heartfelt apology and acceptance of her side of the fault brought some relief to the growing stress!!
Probably because of this, she behaved very normally when Ishwari came to meet Dev and Suhana. I was quite disppointed with Ishwari when she again tried to prove to herself and to Sonakshi that Dev is still a "mamma's boy" and she is proud of that!! I just wish that Vaishno Devi somehow gives her some kind of divine blessing by which she can become a mother like Asha or atleast like me...
Asha as the mother, the pillar of the Bose family is a highly inspiring personality! ❤️😄😍 From the time she has extended her support to Dev and Sona to be Soha's parents, she has been impressing the audience through her assertiveness and rational thinking. The way she took decisions about handling Rounita's mother without even the slightest hint of showing any superiority only made me think of Ishwari in contrast to her. I was thinking of the several occasions during Dev-Sona's wedding when Ishwari made it look like as if she was doing sooo much out of the way, just for the sake of her son's happiness. A mother's strength and bravery comes through during such times - when she becomes the glue that holds it all together, inspite of the million reasons for the family members to fly apart.
Her timely intervention during Dev-Sona's fight to remind them of their duty to be a part of "one" team was worth a big thumbs up from all viewers! I especially liked how she said "Suhana ko mamma aur papa ka saath nahi chahiye.. mamma-papa ka saath chahiya" - to take care of their child together as parents not as "mother" and "father" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The Bose family is a family which listens to Asha, because they "want" to listen to her. Its the respect that she has earned for herself, not based on any compulsion, but purely based on the love thats very genuine between all of them. That way, I am in awe of Asha's beautiful family and the love they all have for Asha. My folks also listen to me, but I feel it might be out of fear for me.. not love..😬😬
The lighter moments of the week through the "curfew" set by Asha was a very welcome sequence in an otherwise a pretty stressful week!
Asha was the only person that could put some restrain on Bijoy and Sonakshi's rage!! Throughout the week, there were multiple occasions when Bijoy crossed his limits. Apart from the "robbery blame" sequence, the dining table sequence during Dev's fish dish was the most unpardonable one! Dev made a special dish for his daughter. He is sad because his daughter has already eaten outside. Whats so funny about it? It was really disgusting to see Bijoy making a joke of it! If that was not enough, the cold treatment he gave to Eleena and Golu was even worser!!
But, inspite of all the hatred that he accumulated over the entire week for treating Dev so badly, Bijoy somehow stole the show the last day of the week 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 when he explained how a dad feels when his daughter is sad and hurt...A lot of things in this show have a history of getting resolved once and for all, over a drink! And I hope Dev-Bijoy's relationship improves for good, after those heartfelt discussions. I really liked that part of the show, because Dev never tried to justify his mistakes. He quietly accepted it with a drop of tear. This time he realized it as a father, not as a husband and not as a son. It takes a lot of courage to quietly accept to one's mistakes without arguing into the details or highlighting the other person's faults. I sincerely pray that Bijoy should be alright soon 🙏🏼 There is a lot of unfinished business between this son-in-law and father-in-law.
At the end of the week, I realized that almost all the characters of our story have stepped out of the zone in which they have so far lived. Golu and Suhana have started talking about sensitive topics like "between Soha's mamma and papa, who might be at fault?" Sonakshi has taken a bolder step of allowing Dev yet again in her life as her daughter's dear father. Dev has been extremely brave in trying to start a fresh life with Suhana and Sonakshi, leaving all the 7 years behind him. Even Rounita went out of the zone that she lives in, and welcomed Dev into her life with a cordial relationship that he deserves!
But the only people that continue to remain in their own small world of deceiving, lies and manipulations are GKB and Vicky! Only they are capable of poisoning a little child's mind, and to take advantage of an old man's already disturbed mind. People like these two and Rounita's mom may claim that they are doing all this only for the sake of their loved ones. But through these acts, their love or bravery is not proven. Its only their weakness and insecurities that are proven!
The show that once started with the love between a son and a mother has now branched into several forms of love.. When love is challenged, it takes a detour in order to reach the person that its meant for! To show courage, to be patient and brave is extremely important, especially when the detour is long and tiring!! Its a wonderful experience to watch this journey week after week! I have come to realize that no-one is perfect. But their feeling of "love" is more than perfect. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Many scenes this week are worth mentioning -
- Especially all of the scenes of Asha. The makers have taken a great deal of care in keeping this character consistently beautiful 👌🏻👌🏻.
- The relationship between Rounita and Dev that blossomed so nicely, after the helping hand Dev extended to her relationship with Saurabh! 👌🏻👌🏻 Their phone conversation was awesome! 😬🤓
- It will be the least of compliments to say that Shaheer has done exceedingly well portraying the multiple roles he is currently playing - a loving father, an extremely demoralized son-in-law, almost a numb husband, and a genuinely caring brother in law 👏🏻👏🏻❤️😍
- To cap it all was the sequence between Dev and Bijoy for the flawless drunkards that they were and for the serious emotional message in an extremely hilarious way 👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻
- Finally, a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the makers for showing the complexity of human relations and love in an interesting and positive way.
Kuch Rang Pyar ke aise bhi 💓
This week was actually great week and the way asha and dev were portraying Was superb
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I wish this should not be true
Sorry for this late comments. The highlight of the whole week's episodes was the scotch scene of Dev and Bijoy and the jig that they performed .
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