They say we should never go to bed with an unfinished argument.. Our Dev and Sona even made those rules for themselves. But never were able to follow it even after more than a week into marriage.
I have always wondered about why its so hard to be in Sync after marriage. Mine is also an inter-community love marriage like theirs. And after many years of arguing and fighting and making up in repeat mode, I have been able to come to a logical reason behind it. Prior to getting into the marriage, its always about demonstrating "who loves more" and therefore there are many gift exchanges and nice romantic talks, etc.However, after marriage, its all about "who is loved more"! There is a lot of expectation and there is a constant need to surprise the other person and even if one tries his/her best, it never seems sufficient enough. There is always room for mistakes and misunderstandings.. With a 3rd person constantly around, the situation is more demanding.
Ishwari is the 3rd person I am referring here and probably Dev will fight with me for saying so and will tell me that I was not there to witness the difficult times he and his mom went through.. I know that Ishwari is a good soul and that she loves her son with all her heart. However, between a husband and wife, even a mother becomes a third person. Not that she is not loved or not that she doesn't have a say in anything. But a couple need their privacy, for many things, apart from sex.
Coming to Dev and Sona's fight itself - I felt Dev went a little overboard with his choice of words like "hume har bare mein baat karne ki zaroorat nahi hai.. Mein 'apne' bhaayi ko 'apne' office mein ek job di"... in contrast to Sonakshi's genuine advice of "Vicky has to become a good person and that opportunity was taken away by giving him everything without effort". Having said that, I also felt Sonakshi should give Dev his space... its only a week into their marriage and she has to get in slowly into everyone's heart..After all, this marriage has happened amidst hatred from Ishwari, Maami and Sona knows their personality...
When a fight like this happens, the effect lingers even after they resolve the problem for which it all started in the first place! One might say that its the ego of the couple thats stopping them from getting over the misunderstanding. But for me, "ego" is a very negative term.. I feel its not as bad as that. If that day, one of them fell sick, I am sure that the other person will be willing to even give their life in return for a healthier, happier spouse. Its not "ego" thats stopping them from making up. Its the need to be "loved more".. If she loves me that much, let her come and talk to me..If he loves me that much, let him come and talk to me...So, the night, the morning, the afternoon, the evening went by waiting for the other person to take that first step.
Even after many many years of marriage, I feel that hesitation to take the first step might always be there because even after we become very very old, we will have the need to be loved more.
While the couple themselves are trying figure out their own space, Ishwari was almost strangling their neck by involving herself in things she doesn't have to.. It was obvious that Sona was trying to do something special for her husband that night in the dinner table. I am sure, Ishwari knows the purpose of the candles on the dinner table . There was absolutely no need to stop Sonakshi from making Dev's dinner special and send her upstairs to sleep. And it was such an ugly lie when she told Dev that Sona was sleepy, so she went up to sleep..
When a couple allows a 3rd person to decide the reason for their fights, its going to be difficult to find peace. However, its a learning curve where we learn the Do's and Dont's... and thats how we grow in marriage..A marriage that lasts long amidst all this, becomes a special one. Thats why, its such a pride to have a long happy married life.
Even though it was hard to see the cute couple fight, I had my heart set on them, because I could see myself there arguing with my husband
Sona-"Are you saying its my mistake!"
Dev-"I didnt start anything..i am just agreeing to whatever you are saying"
Sona-"Dev!!"
Dev-"What??"
Sona-"Ok fine. I don't want to talk. I will go"
Dev-'Ok fine. Go!"
Am pretty sure, this is how most of the fights go on in every household!! Well done guys 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The following morning scene was very beautifully conceived and so full of emotions.. And perfectly done by the lead pair. I am usually more biased to Dev, because I just adore him. In this scene I have to give it to both for so rightly capturing that feeling of "I cant let you go.. I love you with all my heart..and I miss you so badly..." When a similar disagreement came prior to marriage over Ranveer's acceptance of the job offer, they were able to agree to disagree.. It was quite easy then, because there was a not an Ishwari standing in between them!
If they had just a few more seconds to express, I am sure that scene would have ended differently. Its not ego thats stopping them, and one will do anything if the other is in trouble..There he came, running to his Sonakshi before she could set her eyes on that report and hurt herself. The cute moments that followed, was a well deserved treat for the fans after sustaining more than half a week of heart ache 💕💞💖
On the day of Dussera, I think Dev did the right thing by keeping his mother also happy. Ofcourse, he over ate and he might end up having a tummy ache later. But, I think he did the right thing. And I felt Sona was really pushing him that night about his mom, and not giving him any space at all.. I particularly liked the "data transfer" comparison. As much as we find Ishwari's presence between the couple, annoying... its also true that Dev and Ishwari share a unique bond, much more stronger than a normal mother-son. And I loved how Dev felt it was his responsibility to tell Ishwari that he was eating out that night, but he forgot. Thats the strength of Dev - to love every member of his family with all his heart and to go above and beyond to keep them happy and content. Its going to be interesting to see him keep the new addition Sonakshi also happy and content.
But on a jovial note, is this how people put on some extra weight, post marriage? over eating?? 😲😂
Talking about eating, I am also noticing that every single time, Ishwari only feeds Dev and makes it a point to not serve for Sona 😲. Either Sona serves for herself or Bhola serves for her..
Its probably more than 10 days since their wedding and the couple weren't able to consummate their marriage due to family traditions on one side and Ishwari's surveillance on the other! Finally, one of the sisters took that bold step of booking the resort (that Sona had already bookmarked!) for the couple. On her own accord, Sonakshi wouldn't have thought of lying to Ishwari and going away for the night. But when the situation was created for her by someone, it was quite natural to go with the flow! Especially, given the distractions they have been having at home. Sometimes, a 3rd person's intervention helps!!
In a welcoming change on TV (and movies too), the lady took the first step of bringing her man to the dream world and surprise him!!
This was probably the first time, someone has ever surprised Dev like this..with so much love for him in her eyes... I was remembering that scene after the initial proposal when he told Sonakshi that he wants to keep her for himself.. as he has never before desired for anything other than her for himself.. It was natural that he had a feeling of pride over his possession, Sonakshi.
Its probably very rare to see a girl compliment a guy for being handsome. It was so cute when Sonakshi complimented his looks and his already glowing eyes just brightened up more!! An unusually casual Dev Dixit was really looking handsome..Well, considering that Sonakshi packed the luggage, this was not a big surprise to me!
Apart from his looks, Shaheer's eyes are his asset 😍😍 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Have I been telling this week after week? They emote so well and bring out the essence of the scene in just one deep look. Well, I say, he should insure his eyes.
The Resort was beautiful just like the couple! Very romantic place, perfect for 2 beautiful people totally in love with each other.. There was just the right dose of romance to show their intimacy - it was like a poem, a soft music, that took us gently into their world and kept lingering in our mind until long after the show was over...
Back home, Ishwari was anxious that her son was not home yet, angry that Sonakshi had probably tricked her this time in getting away with Dev, and embarrassed when she called the Bose house... She is bottling up all the things in her mind now. I don't know when and how its going to burst out!! We should pause and appreciate the actress Supriya, who plays the role of Ishwari. She manages to show all her emotions in her face with zero dialogue!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I loved how the makers underplayed the drama of Dev and Sonakshi's lie to mama's house.. I was very much worried what will happen when Ishwari finds out..In any other TV serial, this plot would have been shown for more than a week with the women conspiring and the bahu being blamed, etc. One more round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the makers.
As we came to the end of the week, it was good to see the newer, more confident Sonakshi, who was ready with her answers to Ishwari, over waiting for her husband Dev, that night for dinner. And Dev's happy union with his wife for dinner was heartwarming to see, inspite of Ishwari's growing discomfort.
Ishwari should really be proud of her son, who genuinely makes it a point to spend some time with her, acknowledging the fact that she needs him as well. He was right there for her..taking care of her physical and emotional needs.. And yet, it was just not enough for the insecure mother and she wants to put the pressure of her hopes and wishes on her very devoted son...
As Dev and Sona's relationship grows stronger and more intimate, its hard not to think of Neha who has just come back to her mom's side with a failed marriage. Neha is not ready to talk to anyone and is totally rude and insensitive, especially to Sonakshi who constantly attempts to talk to her. Until she is ready to talk, its hard to reach out to her.
If Neha's love for Ranveer and his love for her is strong enough, then this distance is definitely temporary. Because, there is only one happiness in life - To love and be loved.
Atleast for Dev and Sonakshi, things are starting to fall in the groove, I hope.
I have always wondered about why its so hard to be in Sync after marriage. Mine is also an inter-community love marriage like theirs. And after many years of arguing and fighting and making up in repeat mode, I have been able to come to a logical reason behind it. Prior to getting into the marriage, its always about demonstrating "who loves more" and therefore there are many gift exchanges and nice romantic talks, etc.However, after marriage, its all about "who is loved more"! There is a lot of expectation and there is a constant need to surprise the other person and even if one tries his/her best, it never seems sufficient enough. There is always room for mistakes and misunderstandings.. With a 3rd person constantly around, the situation is more demanding.
Ishwari is the 3rd person I am referring here and probably Dev will fight with me for saying so and will tell me that I was not there to witness the difficult times he and his mom went through.. I know that Ishwari is a good soul and that she loves her son with all her heart. However, between a husband and wife, even a mother becomes a third person. Not that she is not loved or not that she doesn't have a say in anything. But a couple need their privacy, for many things, apart from sex.
Coming to Dev and Sona's fight itself - I felt Dev went a little overboard with his choice of words like "hume har bare mein baat karne ki zaroorat nahi hai.. Mein 'apne' bhaayi ko 'apne' office mein ek job di"... in contrast to Sonakshi's genuine advice of "Vicky has to become a good person and that opportunity was taken away by giving him everything without effort". Having said that, I also felt Sonakshi should give Dev his space... its only a week into their marriage and she has to get in slowly into everyone's heart..After all, this marriage has happened amidst hatred from Ishwari, Maami and Sona knows their personality...
When a fight like this happens, the effect lingers even after they resolve the problem for which it all started in the first place! One might say that its the ego of the couple thats stopping them from getting over the misunderstanding. But for me, "ego" is a very negative term.. I feel its not as bad as that. If that day, one of them fell sick, I am sure that the other person will be willing to even give their life in return for a healthier, happier spouse. Its not "ego" thats stopping them from making up. Its the need to be "loved more".. If she loves me that much, let her come and talk to me..If he loves me that much, let him come and talk to me...So, the night, the morning, the afternoon, the evening went by waiting for the other person to take that first step.
Even after many many years of marriage, I feel that hesitation to take the first step might always be there because even after we become very very old, we will have the need to be loved more.
While the couple themselves are trying figure out their own space, Ishwari was almost strangling their neck by involving herself in things she doesn't have to.. It was obvious that Sona was trying to do something special for her husband that night in the dinner table. I am sure, Ishwari knows the purpose of the candles on the dinner table . There was absolutely no need to stop Sonakshi from making Dev's dinner special and send her upstairs to sleep. And it was such an ugly lie when she told Dev that Sona was sleepy, so she went up to sleep..
When a couple allows a 3rd person to decide the reason for their fights, its going to be difficult to find peace. However, its a learning curve where we learn the Do's and Dont's... and thats how we grow in marriage..A marriage that lasts long amidst all this, becomes a special one. Thats why, its such a pride to have a long happy married life.
Even though it was hard to see the cute couple fight, I had my heart set on them, because I could see myself there arguing with my husband
Sona-"Are you saying its my mistake!"
Dev-"I didnt start anything..i am just agreeing to whatever you are saying"
Sona-"Dev!!"
Dev-"What??"
Sona-"Ok fine. I don't want to talk. I will go"
Dev-'Ok fine. Go!"
Am pretty sure, this is how most of the fights go on in every household!! Well done guys 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The following morning scene was very beautifully conceived and so full of emotions.. And perfectly done by the lead pair. I am usually more biased to Dev, because I just adore him. In this scene I have to give it to both for so rightly capturing that feeling of "I cant let you go.. I love you with all my heart..and I miss you so badly..." When a similar disagreement came prior to marriage over Ranveer's acceptance of the job offer, they were able to agree to disagree.. It was quite easy then, because there was a not an Ishwari standing in between them!
If they had just a few more seconds to express, I am sure that scene would have ended differently. Its not ego thats stopping them, and one will do anything if the other is in trouble..There he came, running to his Sonakshi before she could set her eyes on that report and hurt herself. The cute moments that followed, was a well deserved treat for the fans after sustaining more than half a week of heart ache 💕💞💖
On the day of Dussera, I think Dev did the right thing by keeping his mother also happy. Ofcourse, he over ate and he might end up having a tummy ache later. But, I think he did the right thing. And I felt Sona was really pushing him that night about his mom, and not giving him any space at all.. I particularly liked the "data transfer" comparison. As much as we find Ishwari's presence between the couple, annoying... its also true that Dev and Ishwari share a unique bond, much more stronger than a normal mother-son. And I loved how Dev felt it was his responsibility to tell Ishwari that he was eating out that night, but he forgot. Thats the strength of Dev - to love every member of his family with all his heart and to go above and beyond to keep them happy and content. Its going to be interesting to see him keep the new addition Sonakshi also happy and content.
But on a jovial note, is this how people put on some extra weight, post marriage? over eating?? 😲😂
Talking about eating, I am also noticing that every single time, Ishwari only feeds Dev and makes it a point to not serve for Sona 😲. Either Sona serves for herself or Bhola serves for her..
Its probably more than 10 days since their wedding and the couple weren't able to consummate their marriage due to family traditions on one side and Ishwari's surveillance on the other! Finally, one of the sisters took that bold step of booking the resort (that Sona had already bookmarked!) for the couple. On her own accord, Sonakshi wouldn't have thought of lying to Ishwari and going away for the night. But when the situation was created for her by someone, it was quite natural to go with the flow! Especially, given the distractions they have been having at home. Sometimes, a 3rd person's intervention helps!!
In a welcoming change on TV (and movies too), the lady took the first step of bringing her man to the dream world and surprise him!!
This was probably the first time, someone has ever surprised Dev like this..with so much love for him in her eyes... I was remembering that scene after the initial proposal when he told Sonakshi that he wants to keep her for himself.. as he has never before desired for anything other than her for himself.. It was natural that he had a feeling of pride over his possession, Sonakshi.
Its probably very rare to see a girl compliment a guy for being handsome. It was so cute when Sonakshi complimented his looks and his already glowing eyes just brightened up more!! An unusually casual Dev Dixit was really looking handsome..Well, considering that Sonakshi packed the luggage, this was not a big surprise to me!
Apart from his looks, Shaheer's eyes are his asset 😍😍 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Have I been telling this week after week? They emote so well and bring out the essence of the scene in just one deep look. Well, I say, he should insure his eyes.
The Resort was beautiful just like the couple! Very romantic place, perfect for 2 beautiful people totally in love with each other.. There was just the right dose of romance to show their intimacy - it was like a poem, a soft music, that took us gently into their world and kept lingering in our mind until long after the show was over...
Back home, Ishwari was anxious that her son was not home yet, angry that Sonakshi had probably tricked her this time in getting away with Dev, and embarrassed when she called the Bose house... She is bottling up all the things in her mind now. I don't know when and how its going to burst out!! We should pause and appreciate the actress Supriya, who plays the role of Ishwari. She manages to show all her emotions in her face with zero dialogue!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I loved how the makers underplayed the drama of Dev and Sonakshi's lie to mama's house.. I was very much worried what will happen when Ishwari finds out..In any other TV serial, this plot would have been shown for more than a week with the women conspiring and the bahu being blamed, etc. One more round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the makers.
As we came to the end of the week, it was good to see the newer, more confident Sonakshi, who was ready with her answers to Ishwari, over waiting for her husband Dev, that night for dinner. And Dev's happy union with his wife for dinner was heartwarming to see, inspite of Ishwari's growing discomfort.
Ishwari should really be proud of her son, who genuinely makes it a point to spend some time with her, acknowledging the fact that she needs him as well. He was right there for her..taking care of her physical and emotional needs.. And yet, it was just not enough for the insecure mother and she wants to put the pressure of her hopes and wishes on her very devoted son...
As Dev and Sona's relationship grows stronger and more intimate, its hard not to think of Neha who has just come back to her mom's side with a failed marriage. Neha is not ready to talk to anyone and is totally rude and insensitive, especially to Sonakshi who constantly attempts to talk to her. Until she is ready to talk, its hard to reach out to her.
If Neha's love for Ranveer and his love for her is strong enough, then this distance is definitely temporary. Because, there is only one happiness in life - To love and be loved.
Atleast for Dev and Sonakshi, things are starting to fall in the groove, I hope.
Excellent analysis. I have a doubt of outcome of this scenario if Dev marry Natasha. Because that relation combined with business. If Ishwari behave the same with Natasha how the repercussions would be on Dev. Natasha's father linked her happiness with business. Does Ishwari attitude change? This question need answer.
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