I am glad that I did not witness the breakup sequence live on TV. It was the most heart wrenching part of the show. There is so much of anger in the fandom. My thoughts on the breakup...
Although Ishwari did not exactly plan the breakup, she was unknowingly, but gradually making it happen. Ever since Dev told her that he would like to spend the rest of his life with Sonakshi, Ishwari was not able to love him the same way she did before. And none of us are able to love Ishwari the way we did before.
Everyone has a dark side..Even the moon has a dark side. Considering the evolution of humans from animals, I am sure there is a darker side to all of us which is full of anger, lie, etc. And hence Ishwari, with the current circumstances that she is in, might be experiencing and exposing her dark side now...Other than this, I cannot talk anything else to justify her actions..I am totally unable to relate to this character at all...
For Dev, as soon as he told his mother that he is in love with Sonakshi, it was almost as if the marriage was over..Therefore, going to the shop with both of them together or making Sonakshi part of the family portrait was not a big deal. But for Ishwari it was shock after shock..to realize how much Sona has taken over her son Dev. She was constantly trying to see if her son has really changed that much...A very nice characterization of a possessive mother.
Ishwari thought "Dev used to like sober colors..that must be the same". But Dev chose bright colored bed sheets and justified it by saying, "yes I do like sober colors.. but now I am liking bright colors..thanks to Sonakshi" Little did he know of his mother's possessive side..he went on to add fuel to the already burning heart "Haan ma..Sona sab kuch badhalna chahthi hain..mere almaari ki saare kapde badhalna chahthi hain.."
The only problem with Ishwari is that she never expressed to Dev that she does not like Sonakshi.. If only she did, Dev might have had an opportunity to explain how much Sonakshi meant to him. Because of Ishwari's silence/false approval, Dev continued to assume that Sonakshi is soon going to be his life partner. His intention to include Sona in the family portrait was genuine from his point of view. It was enough for Ishwari to finally open her mouth in a way that Dev could sense her discomfort.
Atleast at that time, she could have expressed what was truly in her mind..instead of beating around the bush by saying "Sonakshi is not yet part of the family"
Sonakshi, the girl with a strong presence of mind, was always doubtful about Ishwari's approval. What is beautiful about Sona is her ability to think beyond the present moment and to put herself in the other person's shoes - the two main traits that lack in the otherwise perfect Dev.
To make sure that Ishwari is ok with the relationship, Sona takes her own initiative in getting into Ishwari's good books..Besan ka halwa is Ishwari's unique recipe and Sona made the right move by attempting to make it for Dev..If only she had bid a temporary goodbye to the "Nutritionist" inside her, everything would have been perfect... The "diet" halwa was a disaster..but Sona was more devastated to later find that Ishwari had purposely served it to Dev, even after fully knowing that he was not going to like it...
If this was not enough for Sonakshi and Dev to understand Ishwari, the family portrait minus Sonakshi must have given them the message. Sonakshi clearly got the message, but Dev insisted that Ishwari was perfectly ok with their relationship! Sonakshi's confrontation about the family portrait shook Ishwari hard..as Sona kept pointing out her role as a daughter in law.
And, by this time, Ishwari was completely taken over by her possessiveness. She was hardly aware of what she was doing..her love for Dev was not the same. Her hatred for Sonakshi was increasing many folds..And the words that came out of her mouth were very sharp and hurt Sonakshi deeply..so much that it became very clear to her that Ishwari was not happy with her.
Up until this point, Ishwari was only angry, possessive, obsessed and insecure. She was not at all aware she was being irrational. However, Sonakshi's parents' visit and the conversation with Sona's dad that followed, got herself all guilty of her own behavior..She realized that she was not happy at all like a normal parent, although her conscience kept telling her that she needs to be happy for her son... I loved Bijoy's dialogues. After all the complicated stuff that Ishwari told about following Sanskar..keeping your work place separate from personal stuff, etc. - it was right on the nail head, when he said "I want my daughter's happiness..if you are happy, Dev is happy and if Dev is happy, my daughter will be happy and thats all I want."
Right after this conversation, Ishwari realized that she was not doing the right thing. What she did after this, was beyond my comprehension..
The Bose family is a happy family. They look out for each other, while also giving enough freedom. Sona was rightly warned by Bijoy to reconsider her relation.. Their conversations are clear as water and they are all totally transparent, unlike the Dixit folks. In the bose family, a yes is a "Yes"... not a disguised "No".
Little did Dev realize that his mom's "Yes, I like Sonakshi.." was not really a "Yes"...He had no doubt about his mom's happiness..He always thought, if he is happy, his mom will be happy..With unadulterated happiness, he genuinely went to meet Sonakshi. He genuinely gave her the promises..He had no idea that his next meeting with Sonakshi will be the breakup. He had no idea that he hugged Sona for the last time that night...
I now, have to talk about the breakup, although I never want to even think about it..I am going to make it as short as possible and get this post done with.
When mama told Dev that Ishwari is not happy with his and Sona's relationship, Dev crumbled. When he heard Ishwari tell mama that she is a bad mom, he felt miserable and fell apart and blamed himself for being blind to his mom - his God's misery...Any other son would probably question only the mom as to why she agreed for the relationship in the first place....
But Dev is different and unique and he loves his mom more than anything else and Sonakshi knows about it. Sonakshi was fully aware that she is only the second most important person in his life.
Dev is impulsive and makes decisions for the current moment only. He lives in the present only...always. Sonakshi knows about it.
Dev is a complicated person. And to live with him is not easy. Yes, Dev made a promise that he will always be there for her.. But Sonakshi also promised that she is willing to accept Dev as it is, with all his complications..and that she will always be there for him.
Sonakshi once even promised Dev that she will never leave him..."mein aap ko chodkar kabhi nahi jaaoongi.. aap mujhe chodenge, thab bhi nahi"
Am not justifying what Dev did... But he has got a lot of bashings from everyone in the fandom..so I am just taking his side, so that he doesn't feel lonely. Sonakshi has her family to support her in this hard time. Dev has no-one except us.. I wish Sonakshi knew that Dev cannot survive without her...
But having said that...Dev, is that a way to break up? "Tum Jao Sonakshi..hume alag hona chahiye" Thats it? Come on Dev...Is this a way "a man loves a woman"?? Doesn't she mean more than this to you, Dev...
I am heartbroken 💔 and I don't want to talk anymore.
I will end this by saying
Its a well deserved award for you Shaheer - "⭐️Star of the year⭐️" Congratulations!
"Phenomenal performance this week Shaheer, Erica, Supriya n all other actors." 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
"Lovely music, lovely rendition, lovely dialogues" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This show is a game changer in the otherwise boring Indian television!
Kudos to the makers. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
Although Ishwari did not exactly plan the breakup, she was unknowingly, but gradually making it happen. Ever since Dev told her that he would like to spend the rest of his life with Sonakshi, Ishwari was not able to love him the same way she did before. And none of us are able to love Ishwari the way we did before.
Everyone has a dark side..Even the moon has a dark side. Considering the evolution of humans from animals, I am sure there is a darker side to all of us which is full of anger, lie, etc. And hence Ishwari, with the current circumstances that she is in, might be experiencing and exposing her dark side now...Other than this, I cannot talk anything else to justify her actions..I am totally unable to relate to this character at all...
For Dev, as soon as he told his mother that he is in love with Sonakshi, it was almost as if the marriage was over..Therefore, going to the shop with both of them together or making Sonakshi part of the family portrait was not a big deal. But for Ishwari it was shock after shock..to realize how much Sona has taken over her son Dev. She was constantly trying to see if her son has really changed that much...A very nice characterization of a possessive mother.
Ishwari thought "Dev used to like sober colors..that must be the same". But Dev chose bright colored bed sheets and justified it by saying, "yes I do like sober colors.. but now I am liking bright colors..thanks to Sonakshi" Little did he know of his mother's possessive side..he went on to add fuel to the already burning heart "Haan ma..Sona sab kuch badhalna chahthi hain..mere almaari ki saare kapde badhalna chahthi hain.."
The only problem with Ishwari is that she never expressed to Dev that she does not like Sonakshi.. If only she did, Dev might have had an opportunity to explain how much Sonakshi meant to him. Because of Ishwari's silence/false approval, Dev continued to assume that Sonakshi is soon going to be his life partner. His intention to include Sona in the family portrait was genuine from his point of view. It was enough for Ishwari to finally open her mouth in a way that Dev could sense her discomfort.
Atleast at that time, she could have expressed what was truly in her mind..instead of beating around the bush by saying "Sonakshi is not yet part of the family"
Sonakshi, the girl with a strong presence of mind, was always doubtful about Ishwari's approval. What is beautiful about Sona is her ability to think beyond the present moment and to put herself in the other person's shoes - the two main traits that lack in the otherwise perfect Dev.
To make sure that Ishwari is ok with the relationship, Sona takes her own initiative in getting into Ishwari's good books..Besan ka halwa is Ishwari's unique recipe and Sona made the right move by attempting to make it for Dev..If only she had bid a temporary goodbye to the "Nutritionist" inside her, everything would have been perfect... The "diet" halwa was a disaster..but Sona was more devastated to later find that Ishwari had purposely served it to Dev, even after fully knowing that he was not going to like it...
If this was not enough for Sonakshi and Dev to understand Ishwari, the family portrait minus Sonakshi must have given them the message. Sonakshi clearly got the message, but Dev insisted that Ishwari was perfectly ok with their relationship! Sonakshi's confrontation about the family portrait shook Ishwari hard..as Sona kept pointing out her role as a daughter in law.
And, by this time, Ishwari was completely taken over by her possessiveness. She was hardly aware of what she was doing..her love for Dev was not the same. Her hatred for Sonakshi was increasing many folds..And the words that came out of her mouth were very sharp and hurt Sonakshi deeply..so much that it became very clear to her that Ishwari was not happy with her.
Up until this point, Ishwari was only angry, possessive, obsessed and insecure. She was not at all aware she was being irrational. However, Sonakshi's parents' visit and the conversation with Sona's dad that followed, got herself all guilty of her own behavior..She realized that she was not happy at all like a normal parent, although her conscience kept telling her that she needs to be happy for her son... I loved Bijoy's dialogues. After all the complicated stuff that Ishwari told about following Sanskar..keeping your work place separate from personal stuff, etc. - it was right on the nail head, when he said "I want my daughter's happiness..if you are happy, Dev is happy and if Dev is happy, my daughter will be happy and thats all I want."
Right after this conversation, Ishwari realized that she was not doing the right thing. What she did after this, was beyond my comprehension..
The Bose family is a happy family. They look out for each other, while also giving enough freedom. Sona was rightly warned by Bijoy to reconsider her relation.. Their conversations are clear as water and they are all totally transparent, unlike the Dixit folks. In the bose family, a yes is a "Yes"... not a disguised "No".
Little did Dev realize that his mom's "Yes, I like Sonakshi.." was not really a "Yes"...He had no doubt about his mom's happiness..He always thought, if he is happy, his mom will be happy..With unadulterated happiness, he genuinely went to meet Sonakshi. He genuinely gave her the promises..He had no idea that his next meeting with Sonakshi will be the breakup. He had no idea that he hugged Sona for the last time that night...
I now, have to talk about the breakup, although I never want to even think about it..I am going to make it as short as possible and get this post done with.
When mama told Dev that Ishwari is not happy with his and Sona's relationship, Dev crumbled. When he heard Ishwari tell mama that she is a bad mom, he felt miserable and fell apart and blamed himself for being blind to his mom - his God's misery...Any other son would probably question only the mom as to why she agreed for the relationship in the first place....
But Dev is different and unique and he loves his mom more than anything else and Sonakshi knows about it. Sonakshi was fully aware that she is only the second most important person in his life.
Dev is impulsive and makes decisions for the current moment only. He lives in the present only...always. Sonakshi knows about it.
Dev is a complicated person. And to live with him is not easy. Yes, Dev made a promise that he will always be there for her.. But Sonakshi also promised that she is willing to accept Dev as it is, with all his complications..and that she will always be there for him.
Sonakshi once even promised Dev that she will never leave him..."mein aap ko chodkar kabhi nahi jaaoongi.. aap mujhe chodenge, thab bhi nahi"
Am not justifying what Dev did... But he has got a lot of bashings from everyone in the fandom..so I am just taking his side, so that he doesn't feel lonely. Sonakshi has her family to support her in this hard time. Dev has no-one except us.. I wish Sonakshi knew that Dev cannot survive without her...
But having said that...Dev, is that a way to break up? "Tum Jao Sonakshi..hume alag hona chahiye" Thats it? Come on Dev...Is this a way "a man loves a woman"?? Doesn't she mean more than this to you, Dev...
I am heartbroken 💔 and I don't want to talk anymore.
I will end this by saying
Its a well deserved award for you Shaheer - "⭐️Star of the year⭐️" Congratulations!
"Phenomenal performance this week Shaheer, Erica, Supriya n all other actors." 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
"Lovely music, lovely rendition, lovely dialogues" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This show is a game changer in the otherwise boring Indian television!
Kudos to the makers. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
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