Week 60 - We are family!

Family is the anchor during rough waters. Blood can make you related, but family is determined by the behavior, by the loyalty of its members...The love of Family is Life's greatest blessing. Our show dwelled on this topic of "Family" for almost the whole week.. Whatever happens, we are family! 😊 💪🏼 ❤️

An encounter with Khatri was not something Sonakshi planned to do this week in Dev's house..However, when Khatri posed a threat to Dev's home, she did not hesitate to confront him - because she is family! ❤️ The power of family is such...that we may fight among ourselves, only until an external force threaten our peace...Sonakshi declared herself a family member of the Dixits! A family should be composed of such people! Not people like mami and Vicky who dig holes under the feet of their own family members!!

Even when Mami and Vicky did unimaginable things to Dev, he did not fail to show his love and loyalty to his mama's family who he believes supported the Dixits during bad times.. Family is this - in which every member takes care of the unsaid needs of every other member.. For Dev, Golu is his unborn son. And saving for Golu's future is not something Vicky or Eleena or mami asked Dev to do.. Dev did it because he understands that he and Golu are family! ❤️ On the contrary, the extent Vicky went against Dev in order to safeguard his own future is not unknown to us! And the evil plans that Vicky and mami are constantly making against Suhana and Sonakshi will never be forgiven, especially in the light of Dev's good heart.

Sonakshi and Dev both understand the value and importance of "Family". Its only an irony that they could not live together as a family. 😢

A family looks out for each other even when they are not living under the same roof - Like how Saurabh, the good brother was worried for Sonakshi and the new problem that she has invited upon herself! Even if Jatin is only a friend, he also comes under the umbrella of family merely for this same concern that he has for Sonakshi and her new problem in hand! Not to forget the love he has for Suhana.. This love for Suhana might be suffocating for Dev now.. but he himself cannot deny that Jatin had filled his absence in Suhana's life for the last 6 years.. Whether Dev likes it or not, wants it or not, Jatin is also family! ❤️

But our Dev Dixit has always lived in a small world in which he nurtures the people he loves, with overwhelming love... And because his world is small, he does not have enough space there for anyone other than the people he loves..His growing possessiveness for Suhana and Sonakshi is only a result of this! Even though a cute coffee date (included with instructions of how to make coffee 😂❤️) started off the week, it only became bitter and more bitter for Dev as the week progressed.. Every time he saw Sonakshi and Jatin either talking over phone or in person, Dev could only see and think of  Sonakshi moving away from him. Even after so many affirmations from Sona that Jatin was only a friend, he just could not trust her! 😏

I like Dev for the honest and deep love he has for Sonakshi. I did feel very very sad that Sonakshi was being extremely rude with him for expressing his possessiveness in his own way. It literally broke my heart to see him walk away with so many unanswered questions and eyes full of tears every time it happened..But I also felt bad that when a woman is with a man that is not his brother, dad or husband, why should the society always question her character and her relationship with him?😡 Yes, in this case, I agree that it was only due to the exorbitant love that Dev had for Sona and I am willing to forgive him just like Sona, for mistaking Sona-Jatin relationship.

But, almost the same thing happened in the fandom of the show - when Khatri was introduced in the show in the backdrop of he knowing some secret from Ishwari's past. There were so many speculations of Dev being an illegitimate son of Ishwari and Khatri!!  I know that the speculations were primarily due to the hatred for Ishwari as a character.. But still.. I was very sad that even a noble woman like Ishwari can be questioned and criticized and linked with other men.. The society is such. However modern we become in civilization, a woman needs to prove herself whether it is Sita or Ishwari or Sonakshi..😒

I understand that Ishwari and Sonakshi's case cannot be directly compared to Sita. But when we look carefully from a woman's point of view, we cant deny that however good or bad Ishwari and Sonakshi are, their character should not have been questioned at all...😒😢

By the end of the week, we got a little close to the answer for the big question of the secret revolving around Ishwari and Khatri. Again, its only a speculation that Ishwari might have stolen from the family which was arranging a wedding for their daughter..Only Ishwari can come and solve this for us. Until then, like Sona, we just have to wait with anxiety.

Sometimes I wonder why Sonakshi is not being open with Dev with the case of Khatri...especially when Dev was getting restless with burning possessiveness... The only reason I could come up with was that she was scared that Dev might take the judgement of Khatri in his own hand, especially after he told Sona that he really wanted to kill that guy as Ishwari was scared of him.

A family is one in which every member hears and understands the unsaid pain and emotions of each other.. Sonakshi sure understands the pain of Dev and Dev definitely knows that his judgement of Sona is purely impulsive.. However they need to go through this process of longing for each other, in order to understand how important they are for each other..❤️ I hope that Dev soon gets some relief from the heaviness that is burdening his heart and Sona soon sees Dev and is able to express her innermost love for him. ❤️💑

It seems much easier for kids to explain the complicated feelings in the simplest way to the adults! Golu's reminder to Dev that "we only hurt those that we love the most" was much needed for Dev to get some relief...😊 and Suhana's innocent reminder to Sonakshi of how perfect Dev was made it easy for her to get her own caged emotions out.. 😊

After weeks of watching the "Strong" Sonakshi, and "hurting" Dev, it was a welcome consolation to see her bring out all her emotions that she had bottled up inside her. I will not blame her at all for being a strong rock all this while, because, this society only takes advantage of a weaker person. But however strong we are, when we encounter undeniable love, we cannot fight our emotions for long..  It was almost as if she never cried all these 7 years for the fear of becoming weak. Erica did a commendable job as Sonakshi who was unable to deny her love for Dev which has not faded even a bit even after all the storm she had gone through! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 The dialogue writers need a very special mention especially for the dialogue "Maine aise aadmi se pyar kiya jo kisi aur ka chaand hai.. toh voh mera sooraj kaise ban payega?"👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 (Dev is the moon of someone else..how can he become my sun) - which is probably why Dev was never able to satisfy both Ishwari and Sonakshi at the same time. Even though this realisation can temporarily give some relief to Sona, the permanent solution will only come when everyone bases their relationship without "exepectations" and simply "trust" that the other person cares enough for us. 😊❤️

The "trust" that Asha asked Rounita to have in the Bose family was a priceless advice. 😊 Like Ishwari once said, a family is like a plant..and a new comer in a family is like the new leaf and branch and has to be protected by the whole family.. Its the plant's duty to take care of its new leaves and its the leaves' duty to trust the plant. The Bose family is a good example of such a family..

Even though Ishwari was wise enough to understand this, she failed to instill this trust in Sonakshi for the sheer fear of losing Dev's affection and warmth. But Dev and Sona can still make it all work just by trusting each other. Thanks to Asha for the million dollar advice! I cannot wait for Dev's return to the Dixit home and Sonakshi to express all her feelings to him and rebuild their relationship completely based on "trust".

Eleena married Vicky only based on this "Trust" of love, even though she knew very well that Vicky did not have any moral values. And till date her relationship is only going strong because of the trust she has on him. Time and again Vicky has proved his incapability of being a good father, a good husband, a good businessman or even just a good human. But I am sure that Eleena's constant "Trust" in him has kept their relationship alive. And I hope that this strength that Eleena shows, will one day, change Vicky to be a better person.

Even though I had always thought that Eleena has wasted her life by falling for a guy like Vicky, somehow this week, I started to have some hope in this relationship. Especially after Asha's advice about "Trust". Eleena is such a strong person in the Dixit family, in more than one way. Her heartfelt talk with Dev and Sonakshi definitely introduced them to themselves!! Dev and Sona both got a glimpse of their own hearts in the light of Eleena's speech..Of all the things that Eleena mentioned to Sonakshi about Dev, I particularly liked how she explained that he dwelled in the unfulfilling life for the past seven years and how he can never hate Sonakshi ever!

As the week closed out with many sad sequences, one thing that stood out in my mind was that if the "Family" remains strong, no storm can shake it. But if the family doubts the sincerity of each other, then even a slightest breeze will get the power to uproot it.

Some of the noticeable sequences that are worth mentioning this week:
1. Erica's extra ordinary performance in the tail episode this week.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Sona's heartfelt talks with mama ji and Eleena was much needed for us to see through the wall that Sonakshi has created around herself!
2. Dev's emotional outburst to Sonakshi trying to express the hopeless love he has for her and his helpless state of possessiveness. Especially his comment about her eyes was both romantic as well as drenched with hatred and sorrow - I don't even know who to commend this for. Whether it was the dialogue itself or it was Shaheer's acting ❤️ - that part of the sequence got me very emotional.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 
3. Eleena's sense of belonging to the Dixit family and her interactions with both Dev and Sonakshi are worth mentioning this week! ❤️
4. The Bose family's lighter moments, as usual got us the much needed relief from the heat of stress that prevails in the Dixit family.😊
5. The little kids have been used wisely and aptly in this show like no other show!! Their innocent remarks never fail to explain and clarify the deepest human emotions.❤️❤️

I cannot believe that I am hooked to this TV show for such a long time! It feels that I just started watching this show a few weeks ago! But we have come to 300 episodes milestone ❤️❤️ Our heartfelt wishes to the cast and crew for making a unique show in TV even though it is the same old story and plot of husband-wife-mother-inlaw! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 This show has taught us acceptance, sacrifice, trust and loyalty through the different shades of Love ❤️ Three cheers to the best TV show ever! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Week 59 - Who is right and who is not?

The well wishers of Dev will argue in favor of him and those that like Sonakshi will argue for her. But whoever they talk in favor of, those who really care for either Dev or Sona, will only root for them to somehow come to terms..because the people that truly understand Dev and Sona will know that the two love each other and care for each other very much.💔

Bijoy's case of high blood pressure opened the week's door for us. The doctor's verdict on further observation increased the blood pressure of the Bose folks and us! Knowing the bond between Bijoy and Sonakshi, I can understand that she was worried more. But I did not understand what Dev's fault was... Even if Dev tried to stop Bijoy, how did Sonakshi expect Bijoy to listen to Dev? Well.. what followed next was a series of back to back lecture on how Dev was selfish and how he never cared about anyone else and how he is so unfit to be called a Superman and how fit Bijoy is for that title. And I listened quietly like Dev... Only difference between me and Dev was that Dev shed a tear or two. But I just kept looking at Sonakshi with a big exclamation mark on my face... "Really??!!"😲 😡

When we are impulsive we say many things.. Retrospectively, we may repent. But there is no use. A word said is like an arrow shot from a bow.. It cannot be called back and it will reach where it was aimed at.  It does not matter how sorry we feel later on.. words hurt a lot, especially when it is said by someone who has once made you feel very special...😢😢

What Dev brought up from the past was an apt situation to compare with the current scenario.  When Ishwari dared to give up her life because of his relationship with Sona, he did not hesitate even a moment to ask her to go away. Who can understand it better than Dev that words said impulsively don't mean anything? And Dev was right that these two have always been very impulsive in blaming each other..and expecting each other to constantly prove their sincerity.. and not as quick or as smart in understanding each other. 😢😢

Was Dev wrong in not making sure that Bijoy was safe enough? May be... because, he should have known that Bijoy was very dear to Sonakshi and that he was quite old to handle so much scotch at once!

Was Sonakshi wrong in blaming Dev for it? May be.. because, she should have trusted Dev. She should trusted him that he would have tried..

The whole week had many such situations, when they blamed each other and later quietly thought about the other person..As viewers, we all got a special pass to get into the hearts of these two characters which is now completely shut down for the outside world 😊

I am very glad that a girl like Rounita is entering the Bose family. I hope her mother keeps her insecurities away from Rounita. Because Rounita is the only person that has the potential to get into Sonakshi's heart to get the true emotions out.. It was good to see Sona and Dev talk to Rounita and Saurabh about the process of getting into a wedlock..💑

Dev is sooo wise and knows all about relationships, but why was he never able to save his own relationship with Sona? What went wrong? Will Sonakshi and Dev ever be able to forgive each other? Perfect questions asked by the bride and the groom..  My answer to Rounita and Saurabh - Ofcourse they will be together soon.. Infact they are already together. They just need some fine tuning.. its just a matter of time... 💞💞

Saurabh and Rounita's wedding brought back such lovely memories to not just DevAkshi, but all of their fans as well.  Inspite of all the tension that prevailed during the DevAkshi wedding, one cannot deny the abundant love between Dev and Sona at that time, which was filling the air with its beautiful  fragrance..and how the two families tried to keep aside all their differences, so that this love can blossom.. It was only natural for Dev and Sona to think about their wedding at this time.😒😒

Once again, the couple shared the right emotions at the right time.. Yes, they made their relationship a challenge and test in which they failed miserably. But now its a matter of "their" child Suhana and they will not and cannot afford to fail.  Dev and Sona are extremely responsible parents, which is why they are able to acknowledge their mistakes that are now beyond any redemptions because of the pain they have caused for each other. 😒😒

Like I always say - as husband and wife we have all the right to do whatever we want with our life, but as parents we don't have any right to break our relationships. Because it really involves the child's future. Whatever it takes, we have to make the relationship work. The young fans may or may not agree with me on this, but this is the fact. Honestly speaking, any couple who are now parents have to make tons of adjustments to make the relationship work. There is no right or wrong person... One day, a dad has to give up, so that the mom can feel the importance of her presence in the family. And one day, the mom has to give up, so that the dad can take charge..Its a cycle and over time, I swear, it will work for all families, however crazy they are!! My happiness knows absolutely no limits to see that the story is revolving around such responsible parents!

Well, in our story, it was mom's way for the last one week. And now, after the Bose wedding, its dad Dev's way!!  Midnight?? Really Dev - your craziness has not changed even a bit. But in a way, it worked. Because, it made it easy for Bijoy 😊

But before I wrap up the Bose family stay - I must mention that Bijoy's underplayed emotions after the hospital visit was good to see, rather a big relief to see 😊😊 I must also thank Asha who helped Dev to be his sane self in the Bose house. She was able to get into his heart more than a few times. In the last seven years, it was probably only to Asha that he openly accepted his concern for Sonakshi.❤️❤️ Bye Bye Bose family. See you back in seven days!

The Dixit mansion had no charm without Suhana's dadi.. The sleepy head GKB is no match for Ishwari's charm. Alright.. I can already hear your grudge.. relax.. I didn't say Ishwari was a good person..😬😬

As Sonakshi stepped into the house, I was also pretty much playing back the same scenes in my mind.. Obviously, there is going to be so many memories of DevAkshi attached to the Dixit home. Every brick of the house will have something to tell her. I was glad to see that the first thing she noticed there was the jhoola 😊 There are going to be many many memories in this place for Sonakshi, apart from the Jhoola and the ice water..seven years can change everything... but memories remain the same, especially if they are wonderful like Dev and Sona's..💏

I am not surprised that GKB and Vicky have not changed even a bit in seven years. Some people are born evil and will remain so, until they are destined to be. They had the same grudge or even more for Sonakshi !! And this time, Sonakshi does not need to show any regard or respect for them! I would just say that Sonakshi should take a free hit at these two and give them back royally for all the trash they throw at her. It was a good start Sona - well done!! The choti mirchi Suhana is also quite capable of handling GKB and I would love to see some hilarious encounters between these two 😉🤓

It was sad to see Suhana get sick with chicken pox.  Dev was waiting to spend his time with his daughter and this was so very unexpected. But with kids, you almost  never know when they will fall sick and when you need to change your plans!!

In a way, Ishwari's absence was good... Because, her involvement might suffocate Sonakshi and Suhana the very first day!!

As much as Ishwari's absence is appreciated, Jatin's presence is very much not appreciated! Even though Jatin is not allowed in the Dixit mansion, he apparently is in touch with Sonakshi as her "friend"... her "confidante" these days...😉

Dev might have lost his role in Sonakshi's life, but Sonakshi has not lost her effect on Dev. Thats how Dev is. For Dev, Sonakshi is the only person he has ever loved and will ever love. For him the word "love" is synonymous to Sona and therefore he is still very possessive about her. Unfortunately, he cannot openly express his possessiveness.. I am sure he knows fully well that Sonakshi is a good mother. However, the only way to question her and Jatin was to bring the topic of Suhana...

Even though it was a sharp and hurting remark, what Sonakshi told Dev was true - that he needs to first clear up in his mind what his problem is - is it that Suhana is sick? or is it that Sonakshi is talking to Jatin? Sometimes, I feel Natasha should make a reentry and become Dev's good friend, so that Sonakshi can also express some "possessiveness"...🤔🤔 Dev never had a real friend other than Bunty and Sona 😒😢

And again, like always, a hurting remark by either of them was only followed by a quiet reflection of the past...Every time they think of the past, I feel so bad for them.. because they know their own mistakes and are almost on the verge of apologizing to each other, but stop themselves..😒😢

Not just these past memories..even their present togetherness makes us feel sad for them. Every time they look into each others eyes, the familiarity of the moment is so magical that its very hard to snap out of it into the reality of the moment. And the reality of the moment is that they don't mean anything to each other anymore. Its only for Suhana that they are playing this role 😏😊

I don't want to talk about GKB's wicked plans of projecting a wrong image of Sona. GKB was, is and should be treated as an inconsequential person. Why was Dev even listening to her? But thats the strength of GKB and Vicky - that they find the right opportunity when the other person is even slightly vulnerable and uses it to their favour! Even a strong person like Sonakshi had to fall prey to their trap! How horribly Vicky defined Sonakshi as "Dev's daughter's mother"?? 😡😡👊🏻👊🏻 Only he can talk like that!! And GKB is even capable of taking advantage of a child's emotion!! 😡😡

Golu is the apple in Dev's eyes today. Like Dev said to Asha, its because of Golu that Dev had been able to live these past seven years..And the two hold a special relationship that even the actual father is jealous of! Even when Dev was in the Bose house near his daughter, he only came to Golu's side when he needed a shoulder to lean on. And Golu understands even the deepest emotions of his BigCha and can read all the unsaid things from his Bigcha's eyes.. However, thanks to GKB, this little kid has started to look at Dev from a different angle. And Dev is obviously too caught up with Suhana that he could not do anything about it 😒😢

But Suhana is a very intelligent girl and so, I am banking on her to become alright soon and explain to Golu about his Bigcha's state...I cant wait for the day when the two little kids can sleep together to Dev's bedtime story! 😊

The week's finale was a complete twist with the entry of Khatri!!😲😲 Khatri is so fresh in our memory because he had troubled Ishwari with some secret that we were all so curious to find! The unfinished business of Khatri is here again to be finished once and for all. We must wait and watch for Sonakshi's role in this man's story!  However I could not understand why she called Jatin...

Who was really wrong this time? Me being a Dev fan, questioned Jatin's presence and argued that Sonakshi should not have called Jatin, because this is Dev's house and she should have first told Dev! But then when Dev found about Rounita's mother, he did not tell Sonakshi either and wanted to deal with it himself. Sonakshi is doing the same. And she is taking a "good friend's" help... why not Jatin..Jatin is a friend..When we need a friend, wont we call a friend? Dev is now none to Sonakshi, not even a friend, just Soha's father. And Dev and Sona are still doing the same thing. They care for each other in their own ways without feeling any need to tell the other person about it. Who is right and who is wrong is a question that cannot really be answered.

But after seven years, everyone sees a different side of the same person. What was wrong before may become right now! Like Asha said to Bijoy, Sonakshi is now in Dev's house not as his wife, but as "Soha's mother".. And Sonakshi does not have any expectations of the Dixit family members, nor do they have any expectations of her. Sonakshi might start seeing them, especially Ishwari in a completely different light. After all Ishwari is a single mother who has brought up not just one, but 4 kids. And that too without the support of money, or education or a family like the Bose family to lean on. However bad she may be to Sonakshi, who can deny the strength of this mother? With Khatri's entry who has a secret from Ishwari's past - now anything can happen to the relationship between Sonakshi and Ishwari. 😊😊

Some high points this week are:

• Dev and Sonakshi's heartfelt discussions and acknowledgement of their failed relationship. The tears from their eyes were genuine..👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
• Dev's helpless situation, because of which he had to stay away from his own daughter... Emotional scenes are a piece of cake for Shaheer and he plays his roles with such an adept skill! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏻👌🏻
• The beautiful flashbacks.. that makes us want to go back and catch those episodes one more time...❤️😄😍
• The bedtime stories and its effect on the kids.. These stories have now become a character in our story!! A dad who is hands on with kids, looks very good and Sonakshi, am sure is in love with the "dad" Dev. 👨‍👩‍👧
• All the quick blames of Dev and Sonakshi on each other. Even though their words are very hurtful, they only bring their innermost sorrow.. Sometimes, I feel they should end their sentences with "mein aisi wali 'Ex' hoti tho"..when they realize that its going a little overboard 😒😢
• Lastly, Khatri's entry!! Its probably the only TV show that will celebrate a villain's entry!!😎😎 I cannot wait for more Khatri next week 😄😄

Week 58 - To be brave

Being brave is not the ability to move forward without fear..Its the ability to move forward inspite of fear. It is the ability to recognize that something else is more important than fear..

Our show dwelled on this topic predominantly this week! The different characters from the little kids to the adults showed their bravery in some form or the other!

The week itself started on a neat note from Jatin to Dev about being brave. About how men generally like to overpower women and that Dev was brave in making this decision of staying in the Bose home. One part of it was right that it is a male dominated society. But Dev was never chauvinistic ever! Yes, its a different matter that he favored his mother more than his wife. But chauvinism was not his trait. Yet, I will agree with Jatin and compliment Dev for showing bravery - because, he chose to be in the Bose house inspite of knowing that he will be treated with much disregard and disrespect there. Most of the time, we end up showing bravery when we have no other choice but to be brave. He was brave and came to the Bose house only for Suhana. Period.

It was praiseworthy to see the way Dev defended Sonakshi and the Bose family in front of Rounita's mom.  And I was awestruck to see his sentiments about "Love" even after he himself was deceived by it. The comparison of "Love" to pure water and "bad attitude/negetivism" to salt that gets dissolved in pure water and spoils its purity was worth a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the dialogue writers! True.. And I hope that Dev will handle the salt(s) of the Dixit home the same brave way he handled Rounita's mom.

Every one of us go through several points of decision making in our lives right from childhood. And all those situations build the strength in us. Suhana also displayed her strength that day by telling Dev confidently that she knows that her papa cannot steal ❤️❤️. That trust that she had in him gave him enough strength to carry on with his mission at the Bose house.

Even though the bose family is not his own anymore, because of the bond he now has with Suhana, he considers Bose house as his own family! Bijoy blaming Dev for stealing the jewelry was no surprise for me, because Bijoy is always impulsive, especially in matters of Dev. Dev taking the blame of robbery for the sake of Saurabh-Ronita only showed the basic personality and character of Dev - which is "whatever it takes to keep his family happy". 

Even though Dev tried his best to mingle with everyone for the sake of his daughter and even though he tried to ignore all the disrespect he got there, Bijoy and Sonakshi only pushed him further and further I must say. The times that he retaliated, made his relationship with them only more bitter! But yet, he continued to stay strong in his mission of being there for his daughter's sake and started to concentrate on Suhana and her interests.

However, standing between him and his daughter was the "third" person Jatin. Even though Jatin is not related to the Bose family, he is related to Suhana and Sonakshi emotionally for reasons beyond Dev's comprehension. The fact that Dev was able to live in the same house without harming him in anyway was by itself a big brave step for Dev, as he always gets to extreme measures to express his possessiveness.. It was a very heart breaking day when he made the fish dish for Suhana. Even though Jatin did not do anything on purpose, he literally blocked Dev's path to his daughter's heart 😒😢 And I was again upset with Jatin for doing that to Dev.

However I had to just quietly accept his presence, as Sonakshi explained Jatin's role in her life when he almost became a father to Suhana in terms of caring for her and by giving Sonakshi the much needed moral support.. Well.. its only fair that Suhana loves Jatin uncle dearly.

To be a father is much more than being the bread winner of the family. Who will know the importance of father than our own Dev Dixit, who had lost his papa at a much much younger age.. Dev has his own daughter Suhana today. However, he had played the role of a father much before, to his sisters. He has played the role of a "moral support" to his mother much before.  He had always been the candle of his own family (his mother, sisters, mama ji). But the million dollar question is, why did he fail to do that exact same thing - why did he fail to care for, protect and stand up for Sona in a way that she will not feel a need to walk away from him. The answer is simple - that he did not see Sonakshi different from him. To him, he and Sona were just one. Whatever he did, he assumed Sona will also do. 😞

And thats where he went wrong and thats where most of the men go wrong..to think that women (especially their wife) are the epitome of sacrifices and that they don't need anything for themselves.. Often times, many women end up having no identity for themselves after marriage. And those women that fight for an identity for themselves are seen as rebels and a person that intends to break the family! I don't know whether Sonakshi did the right thing by going away from Dev 7 years ago, as I personally don't believe in breaking relationships. But at that time, for all the injustice that she had to go through in the Ishwari nivas, that seemed to be the right thing and the "brave" thing to do from Sona's angle.

A dear friend of mine, who studied with me, is going through a rough personal life right now. I have known her as a carefree teenage girl and we both share many sweet memories of that age. We hardly knew at that time, that 30 years later, we would have gone through so much in our life. I have seen her then and I see her now and I know how much of a rock she has now become and it truly breaks my heart to see her like this. Over time, I have faced many challenges myself and have changed in my personality as well. However, when we both are together, even if its only for a few moments, without our own conscious knowledge we somehow relive a bit of those teenage days every time and smile in that beautiful moment. My friend has definitely put her brave foot front and have somehow been cruising successfully. But in that process she cant deny that she has tightened her heart and spirit a lot which has overall changed her personality.😒 

When Sonakshi came to know of the blame that Dev has taken on himself to save Saurabh-Rounita's marriage, she brought up a very valid argument of "families" marrying each other and not just the couple and how their own marriage failed as the families did not accept each other. But she did not stop with just that. She went on to say many unpleasant things that indirectly were aimed at Ishwari and Dev's family in general. Although I am in agreement with most of the accusations of Sona, I was just disappointed at her tone and the words she used. Especially after knowing that Dev has done something good for her brother's sake, I thought she will be a little grateful for Dev..😢

For some reason, it reminded me of the time Mr.Dixit broke Sona's phone thoughtlessly just because she silenced his phone.. (as she did not want him to be disturbed while having a good time with his sister).. And for a moment I felt how Sonakshi has turned almost into an Abhodro these days!

When we don't have a choice in our life, but to be brave, we somehow will build courage within us and do what we have to do. But it will surely take a toll on our personality.  Sonakshi's state now is a result of her disturbed emotional state for the last seven years and het utmost need to face it all alone and bravely..

And it was a super coincidence that Dev said almost the same thing to Sonakshi that night..that she has become an Abhodro!! So much has happened to both of them and have changed them to an extent that they probably cant recognize themselves!! Because of the circumstance that separated them, it is extremely important for Sonakshi to prove to him that she can be much more successful than him in everything! And because of that attitude of Sona, Dev's comment of "I only pity you Sonakshi, for your state today" obviously irked her more.. and the series of things that happened this week was because of this bitterness between them, that was only becoming worser by the day.

It pushed her beyond the boundaries of the basic character of the original Sonakshi! The reminder from Asha about Dev being "Suhana's father" was much needed and Sonakshi's heartfelt apology and acceptance of her side of the fault brought some relief to the growing stress!!

Probably because of this, she behaved very normally when Ishwari came to meet Dev and Suhana. I was quite disppointed with Ishwari when she again tried to prove to herself and to Sonakshi that Dev is still a "mamma's boy" and she is proud of that!! I just wish that Vaishno Devi somehow gives her some kind of divine blessing by which she can become a mother like Asha or atleast like me...

Asha as the mother, the pillar of the Bose family is a highly inspiring personality!  ❤️😄😍 From the time she has extended her support to Dev and Sona to be Soha's parents, she has been impressing the audience through her assertiveness and rational thinking. The way she took decisions about handling Rounita's mother without even the slightest hint of showing any superiority only made me think of Ishwari in contrast to her. I was thinking of the several occasions during Dev-Sona's wedding when Ishwari made it look like as if she was doing sooo much out of the way, just for the sake of her son's happiness.  A mother's strength and bravery comes through during such times - when she becomes the glue that holds it all together, inspite of the million reasons for the family members to fly apart.

Her timely intervention during Dev-Sona's fight to remind them of their duty to be a part of "one" team was worth a big thumbs up from all viewers! I especially liked how she said "Suhana ko mamma aur papa ka saath nahi chahiye.. mamma-papa ka saath chahiya" - to take care of their child together as parents not as "mother" and "father" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

The Bose family is a family which listens to Asha, because they "want" to listen to her. Its the respect that she has earned for herself, not based on any compulsion, but purely based on the love thats very genuine between all of them. That way, I am in awe of Asha's beautiful family and the love they all have for Asha. My folks also listen to me, but I feel it might be out of fear for me.. not love..😬😬

The lighter moments of the week through the "curfew" set by Asha was a very welcome sequence in an otherwise a pretty stressful week!

Asha was the only person that could put some restrain on Bijoy and Sonakshi's rage!! Throughout the week, there were multiple occasions when Bijoy crossed his limits. Apart from the "robbery blame" sequence, the dining table sequence during Dev's fish dish was the most unpardonable one! Dev made a special dish for his daughter. He is sad because his daughter has already eaten outside. Whats so funny about it? It was really disgusting to see Bijoy making a joke of it! If that was not enough,  the cold treatment he gave to Eleena and Golu was even worser!!

But, inspite of all the hatred that he accumulated over the entire week for treating Dev so badly, Bijoy  somehow stole the show the last day of the week  👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 when he explained how a dad feels when his daughter is sad and hurt...A lot of things in this show have a history of getting resolved once and for all, over a drink! And I hope Dev-Bijoy's relationship improves for good, after those heartfelt discussions. I really liked that part of the show, because Dev never tried to justify his mistakes. He quietly accepted it with a drop of tear.  This time he realized it as a father, not as a husband and not as a son. It takes a lot of courage to quietly accept to one's mistakes without arguing into the details or highlighting the other person's faults. I sincerely pray that Bijoy should be alright soon 🙏🏼  There is a lot of unfinished business between this son-in-law and father-in-law.

At the end of the week, I realized that almost all the characters of our story have stepped out of the zone in which they have so far lived. Golu and Suhana have started talking about sensitive topics like "between Soha's mamma and papa, who might be at fault?" Sonakshi has taken a bolder step of allowing Dev yet again in her life as her daughter's dear father. Dev has been extremely brave in trying to start a fresh life with Suhana and Sonakshi, leaving all the 7 years behind him. Even Rounita went out of the zone that she lives in, and welcomed Dev into her life with a cordial relationship that he deserves!

But the only people that continue to remain in their own small world of deceiving, lies and manipulations are GKB and Vicky! Only they are capable of poisoning a little child's mind, and to take advantage of an old man's already disturbed mind. People like these two and Rounita's mom may claim that they are doing all this only for the sake of their loved ones. But through these acts, their love or bravery is not proven. Its only their weakness and insecurities that are proven!

The show that once started with the love between a son and a mother has now branched into several forms of love.. When love is challenged, it takes a detour in order to reach the person that its meant for! To show courage, to be patient and brave is extremely important, especially when the detour is long and tiring!! Its a wonderful experience to watch this journey week after week! I have come to realize that no-one is perfect. But their feeling of "love" is more than perfect. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Many scenes this week are worth mentioning - 
- Especially all of the scenes of Asha. The makers have taken a great deal of care in keeping this character consistently beautiful 👌🏻👌🏻. 
- The relationship between Rounita and Dev that blossomed so nicely, after the helping hand Dev extended to her relationship with Saurabh! 👌🏻👌🏻 Their phone conversation was awesome! 😬🤓
- It will be the least of compliments to say that Shaheer has done exceedingly well portraying the multiple roles he is currently playing - a loving father, an extremely demoralized son-in-law, almost a numb husband, and a genuinely caring brother in law 👏🏻👏🏻❤️😍 
- To cap it all was the sequence between Dev and Bijoy for the flawless drunkards that they were and for the serious emotional message in an extremely hilarious way 👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻
- Finally, a round of 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the makers for showing the complexity of human relations and love in an interesting and positive way.

Kuch Rang Pyar ke aise bhi 💓

Week 57 - Shining amidst the storm

There are as many kinds of love as there are Hearts. Our show revolves around this topic constantly! ❤️

For the last 7 years, Dev and Sonakshi have struggled through many storms. They may not agree with me, but they have survived all that, only in the hope of being together again.. And ever since Sonakshi came back to Delhi and ever since Dev came to know about Suhana, this storm is slowly losing its fierceness and becoming gentler..😊 However, thats not the case with the antagonists of the story.. Ever since Dev and Sona met again, Ishwari, Bijoy, GKB and Vicky..are all having high blood pressure and spending sleepless nights!! This week gave us the experience of the fierce storm as well as the warmth of the gentle breeze..👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

The week started off with Dev reaching the Bose house to the surprise or rather shock of the Bose family members! No-one except Suhana gave him a warm welcome. But only Suhana mattered to him and no-one else - he reached the Bose house only for her. And because he was going to Bose house, he remembered to take his cool dude mask - he knew that he must be sure to not get provoked by the many unpleasant things that might happen there. His first impression with the blood pressure pills was not to only mock at Bijoy, but also to establish his cool dude avatar!! "Dev, naam tho sun hoga" 😎😎 Its extremely important for Dev to be this way in front of Suhana..so that she does not stamp him as an Abhodro as well 😉

Jatin got into my very bad books on monday by rubbing Dev on the wrong side. On examining carefully..I realized he was not very wrong.😒 But still I was upset with him. And stayed that way..until Friday when he became my friend..👌🏻

Bijoy and Ishwari were both extremely stressed with the current plan of Dev-Sona-Soha. And were both experiencing a fierce storm in their minds. GKB and Vicky were also brainstorming their plan of action. Bijoy tried to make every moment of Dev's stay there difficult for him, thankfully saved by Asha most of the times. And Ishwari was constantly thinking about Dev and what he was doing there...- Mama ji tried to advice Ishwari as much as he could. 

While this group was making the environment so traumatic to endure...

The little kids gave us the much needed peace and tranquility. Golu's matured advice to Ishwari came as a pleasant surprise to me. His love for Dev, is quite remarkable and this little kid understands Dev and his situation inside out and is exactly what Dev needs right now. The makers have done a fabulous job of keeping the kids as kids and yet saying highly inspiring lessons for the elders. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 👍🏻👍🏻"Dadi, lets not disturb big cha now.. If we call him now, Suhana will feel bad.. because thats exactly how I will feel when someone disturbs my time with my dad..." this was neither over-smart nor childish.. perfect, just perfect! "I am like this from childhood..just nobody noticed me..." - many kisses to you Golu, we really need you a lot amidst these crazy old folks. 😏😏

Suhana also brought us the gentle warm breeze in the Bose house that was otherwise giving Dev such a cold treatment. Her cupboard space for her papa reminded me of my childhood, when my cousins used to come and stay with us during summer vacation..and how we created space for them 😊  Its unfortunate that Suhana has to do something like this for her own dad..😢

The fight over AC temperature, sharing a single blanket, bed time story, sweet good night kisses is all that Dev longed for..a happy family. He was willing to do anything for this happy family.. God had been cruel to this family, I thought..

But I have always learnt to see the positive side in all problems - every family has issues. Believe me, the AC issue, snoring, and comforter issues are international problems 😂😂 After all, men are from mars and women are from venus.. so I am thankful that Dev now knows about his daughter and his daughter has accepted him as her papa and their bond is growing stronger every second. And there is a gentle breeze between Dev and Sona too, amidst the "I hate you" game. I wished Sonakshi at least later found out that Dev had put the AC temperature back to 26..🤓 Suhana's "Agar mein nahi hoti tho aap dhonon kahan hote" - another simple yet  powerful dialogue - the basic crux of season 2!

And its because of Suhana that Dev and Sonakshi are getting another chance to live their love story.. And its also because of Suhana that Ishwari is trapped in her possessive world yet again! Even though I hate GKB, what she mentioned to Ishwari (while making room for Sonakshi's clothes in Dev's cupboard) was very true. Ishwari has to realize that Sonakshi's presence is real and she better move aside and give way...else she will be forcefully made to do so.. 😒😢

Worrying about the future will take away today's happiness and Dev was not a person, who will risk today's happiness for a better tomorrow. He has always lived in the present only. He now wants to live his moment with Suhana to the fullest and is extremely good in being her father... because, he knew the price of losing a childhood..and he will never be the reason for his daughter to lose her childhood. When he explained to Suhana how he never had the toys nor the time to play in his childhood, I felt bad for him. And Sonakshi was the only person in the whole world who had seen that little lonely child in Dev and had given at least a part of his childhood to him..I am not just talking about the video game that she made Nikki give him. I am also talking about the rain and the dance and the many other things that they both shared...😊

Today, a lot of things have happened between them and they don't share the same equation as before.. but who can erase the memories, especially when the memories are soo good. Throughout the week, its these little memories that came and touched our hearts gently.💕💞 Every breath and every touch is beautifully familiar to them and seems so perfect every time, but neither of them want to accept it, because they are both hurt deeply by the other person... Its these "false" repulsions which is now their new love language! 
Dev : "You look like aunty!".. 
Sonakshi: "You are so fat and ugly".. 
Us: "Awww.. DevAkshi is too cute"..💖

Is there anyone in this world, that cannot like DevAkshi? Except... Bijoy and Ishwari!! Ishwari was dying to peek into the Bose house and Golu was her perfect reason! But that day, it was good that she came and saved Dev from the embarassment at the lunch table. Bijoy - Bengalis are known for their hospitality.. And he..coming from the land of West Bengal had to stoop so low..to establish his point that Dev is not welcome in the Bose house...Its very sad that enmity can take a toll on the basic personality of a person.😒😢

Kids are like God and they hardly know this "enmity". Dev and Sonakshi are both good parents and are careful in not sowing any negative thoughts on these kids. Being a mother myself, this is a big selling point for me to watch this show. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️ I cannot stand TV shows using kids in their negative propaganda. Dev's explanation about Family as tree was a great lesson for kids and I was looking at Dev with the same admiration as Sonakshi. The gentle breeze was getting gentler and gentler...Talking about positive influence on kids, I also loved Dev's explanation earlier to Suhana about why Bijoy was always rude with him. After all Sonakshi is the baby girl of Bijoy.. just like how Suhana is for Dev.😊

But, Mr.Bijoy Bose had gone down so much in my respect that day - he had absolutely no Love to show to Golu. Only a hateful face and very hateful words that made Dev send his mother and Golu back to the Dixit mansion right away without any delay😡😡 Now this behavior of Bijoy surely made him a very unpleasant person. But Dev's retaliation was worth some claps. I am glad that Dev tried to be stern but stayed within his limits in front of Bijoy.

However, I did feel he crossed his limits with Asha. The beauty of motherhood is such that no matter how old they get, they are never tired of giving that shoulder for their kids.. even if it was in the form changing themselves to punching bags so that we can vent it all out on them.. Both Dev and Sonakshi needed Asha to be their punching bag that day. Even though Dev realized his mistake and asked for an apology later, it really didnt matter to me. Sorry is just a word and it will not undo the hurt. But he will not repeat it again, I knew that. 

As Sonakshi went on to say how good a man Bijoy is and how good a husband he is, Asha stopped and explained that a good man, a good dad, does not necessarily mean a good husband. And as Asha explained the difficulties she had faced as a wife, and yet moved on, because there was nothing more important than their "relationship" - I am sure Sonakshi questioned her own relationship with Dev. I also feel, that the discussion about anger and how Asha puts up with a husband like Bijoy will leave Dev with a doubt about himself and what price he had to pay for his anger. Well... mothers are for giving us that enlightenment when we need it.. and Asha played her part well. She is a woman that should be looked up to. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

After the big storm came the Sangeet. 

Celebrations are always a way to put aside our anger and sadness and be a part of the people that are celebrated. Saurabh and Rounita are a cute couple and Dev had always wished for nothing but good for his brother in law. That day was no different either. He never left an opportunity to mingle and become a part of the Bose family celebration. And Sonakshi cannot deny that she was proud of him. Her pride came through when she told someone that Suhana was with her papa..

Every scene these days only make us think of the happy times.. the walking down the steps, the photo frame gift, the Sangeet dances everything reminded me of all the Dev and Sona memories and I parallelly relived those as well..

Thankfully Bijoy's actions were shown in a lighter vein during the Sangeet ceremony! Otherwise, we would not have been able to see the magic that still exists between the beautiful couple. As Dev insisted and forced Sonakshi to help him wear the dhoti, I was reminded of the "pyar haq de deta hain Sonakshi" scene from Neha's sangeeth... Even though they are in complete denial of even the faintest hint of attraction that still exists between them, they cannot but acknowledge the ease and familiarity of the feeling ❤️❤️. It was a beautiful parallel of the Gajra scene 😍😍. I enjoyed this parallel more than the fact that the whole scene was inspired from my favorite Khan's Swades!😄

As Bijoy's acts were still only in the lighter vein, I really enjoyed the photo session as well! Especially the fitting reply of Dev to Bijoy.. "Ok.. you guys take the family picture. Me and Suhana will take a picture separately!!" Dev's cool dude mask is shining so brightly these days. I was almost celebrating Bijoy's frown!! 😂

Now we have all become so sharp in identifying parallels.. that "Jaat ki Jugni" promotion.. only reminded me of the "Beyhadh" promotion when Dev went to drop his dadi bhua to Haridwar... But the "Love" explanation that the couple gave us, touched my heart. Love stories should only have "Happy endings" - I agree. And our DevAskhi will have a happy ending too. Thats my pinky promise to you all 😄

One of the highlights of this week was Dev's "Izaar-e-Ishq" (Love confession).  ❤️ Who can give a better speech on this topic than our own very dear Dev Dixit. His love for Sonakshi is pure, heartfelt, true and beyond any defeat. The analogies he used for explaining Love are apt for the modern days! Free wifi in a low network area, perfect parking spot!! But like he said, what he says is not important, but who he says it for is the most important thing. He knew who he meant it for and "she" knew it was meant for her. But she probably also remembered when Dev once said "After few years..I will love someone else a tad bit more - she will be slightly prettier and cuter than you!" So she got Suhana in front of him. Or she probably did not want him to get carried away in the moment.. whatever was the reason.. it ended pretty beautifully.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 

After Dev's honest confession, Jatin could not help but admire the hopeless lovers Dev and Sonakshi - the crazy and hopeless couple who knew nothing better than loving each other. I am banking on Jatin a lot and I am pretty sure he will have an important part to play between Dev and Sonakshi.. He will be in the team DevAkshi along with mama ji and Asha 😊 Sonakshi knew whatever Jatin mentioned about Dev was probably true. But why will she accept and even if she does, what is the point? It had been long decided that their relationship will never work, especially in the backdrop of Ishwari's possessiveness. 

Dev's possessiveness was no less either! Even after several assurances in the past that Jatin is just a childhood friend, Dev just could not get over the bond that Sonakshi shared with Jatin. Like I always say, Dev is a little child in these matters and he crying over his own hopeless possessiveness and love for Sonakshi, just broke my heart literally... Behind the cool dude mask that he has been wearing for several years, there is a little child who has been crying deeply for the loss..😢

His one and only friend, Golu, I must say, arrived just on time! Golu's arrival was also like one of Dev's analogies about love - that of a pleasant shadow on an extremely hot June day. Thank you Golu for wiping your Big cha's tears.. Please be with him always.. Only you know how to make him happy..😊

The week thus ended giving me a beautiful message that the warmth of the Love is all you need to survive any storm.. ❤️

The precap gave me a very unsettling feeling during the weekend. I don't know why Ronita's mom has a negative shade to her.. A friend and I were discussing if GKB might have a part in it...I feel Suhana might come to her papa's rescue, against her dadu.. Lets wait and see.

Week 56 - Parenthood

Once upon a time, there was a mighty King and a beautiful Queen. They had a child and then everything changed forever. No matter what you are, the moment you become a parent, your life totally changes. The bad thing is that there is no way back..you are just stuck with it for life! But the good thing is also that there is no way back! 😊 Who wants to look back anyway!!

This week, our show was all about realizing the responsibilities as a parent, acknowledging it and striving hard to be one.👨‍👩‍👧

Dev and Sona have individually been great parents! Although Dev was technically parenting his brother's son, he was pretty much playing the role of a father and even a mother sometimes.. As Golu rightly said, if at all he ever has a need to choose between his mom and dad, he will choose neither and will only be with his Big cha, the Dev Dixit 😁

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After the snake encounter last week, a tired Sonakshi woke up to a sweet gesture of Dev's small "Get well" note and a box of pain killers :) The repulsion between the two, have now substantially reduced, thanks to the summer camp and especially to the snake sent by GKB.😊

A man is not born a dad. Dev's own loss of his dad at a young age has made him the dad that he is, today. Whether it was for Golu or Suhana, his fatherly instincts are so much lively and is constantly looking for opportunities to enrich the learning and life experience of the kids..I have seen fathers who do the drop off/pick up duties for different activity classes of kids.. Most of the fathers that I see (and mothers too) will sit in a bench with their smart phone and hardly even look at their kids playing soccer, skating or learning any other activity..But if I imagine Dev there, I bet he will be a hands-on person. Participating in those games was something that came naturally to him and he was so interested in doing those! He didnt have to go out of the way to do any of that. I know first hand about how kids "love" if their parents are involved and are hands on! It was no wonder to me that Suhana was indeed impressed with her dad! ❤️😍

The little girl had imagined her father to be tall, handsome, strong, funny just like a movie hero. Her dad Dev, was all that and much more - very caring and loving as well..The moment of her calling Dev as papa was a much awaited moment and did not fail to bring those happy tears. 🤗

Once again, the show's subtlety is what stood out that day, apart from the extraordinary performance of Dev and the little girl. No big drama because of Soha calling "papa", but a heartfelt contentment and happiness filled Dev's, Sonakshi's as well as Golu's eyes..👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I am sure even those that consider Dev as a bad husband will accept the fact that he is a good man. Even Bijoy's first meeting of Dev started at this - a staff came to thank Dev for helping his daughter..Dev has never hesitated to show his generosity to his employees.. nor has he ever shied away from spending his hard earned money towards many good deeds like building a child ward in a hospital.. Sonakshi had always admired and acknowledged the fact that Dev is a good man. Even if it was for only a few moments, it was wonderful to see this side of Dev again and Sonakshi looking at Dev with the same fondness she had during what I call the "Natasha" period 😍😄 There cannot be a better way to celebrate the fatherhood that Dev has now achieved than to celebrate with the less fortunate orphans....👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

How on earth will Suhana choose between these two lovely parents? She needs both mom and dad.. And why not? Dev and Sonakshi are both parent goals, why would their child like only one? But I really liked how Dev tried to explain that they both will probably end up fighting all the time and Suhana will not like that either.. How much can you explain to a six-year old girl about couple compatibility and in-Laws issue.. But ya, Ishwari's possessiveness is like that of a possessiveness of a six year old little girl for her doll.. and that part, Suhana may even understand!! 😉😉

Even though she is just a little girl, she articulated her mind extremely well to her papa and mamma... "You are a much better papa than I ever imagined.. And mamma is already world's best! How can I choose one?? If am with you, I will miss mamma and if I am with mamma, I will miss you"... 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Dev is usually a person that thinks via his heart only.. And this time, his heart as well as brain, tell him only one thing - that he needs to make Suhana happy. He needs to be the papa, that his daughter deserves! It looks like just yesterday, when Dev and Sona were struggling with the fact that they cannot have any child.. And here she is, in front of them, their own.. and how can he not give her the very genuine request...😒😢

Parenthood is about self sacrifice.. about keeping your kids above your own needs.. and every parent strives hard to give their child all that they never had as a child. Inspite of all the differences between Dev and Sona, they both are in the same page that they cannot give this child a troubled childhood, just because of their differences. The wonderful part of this show is that both Dev and Sonakshi are "good" ❤️❤️.  Only because they are good, they did not hesitate to sacrifice their "ego" in just a second! It was heartwarming to witness their genuine discussion.. of exploring the possibility of them getting together again! Dev, as a person, has gone through so many phases single handedly..but ever since Sonakshi came in his life even as just a friend, he had created a dependency on her and he surely felt weak when they got separated..but, this state of not being able to see his daughter happy has made him more helpless than ever before.. and I was very keen to see him break his barriers and go above and beyond to make his daughter happy. I knew he would be willing to do anything. Thats the magic of people who give the decision making powers to the heart ❤️

Its really good to see that the summer camp has shattered that heat between Dev and Sonakshi. They are now able to talk more courteously towards each other 😊 Because of the fact that Dev and Sonakshi have been such a lovable couple, there are tons of things that bring back fond memories.. and seeing all that only makes me long for them to get together again..I am looking forward to Dev calling his daughter soon a "tiny mini kharghosh.. "😁 knowing the pulse of the makers, I am sure that they will get us all those scenes very soon 🤓

Along with the courtesy, its very delightful to see some lighter moments in their conversation! Those transport me back to the "pre-Natasha" period 😁 Shaheer and Erica have really gone into the characters they are playing and are proving their chemistry one more time even with their "I hate you" story!! Some actors touch our hearts and remain our favorites because of the characters they have played. Even after many years, I am sure Dev and Sonakshi will live our hearts forever ❤️ There are tons of videos floating around and this week's episodes are sure to be saved in our forever library. They are worth seeing multiple times 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I have well deviated from the story now.. While these beautiful parents are struggling to give what their child needs, the elders stumped me!! I am not saying grandparents don't have rights on their grandchildren... but Ishwari and Bijoy's dialogues were extremely hilarious to me...😂 😲 "achanak se ab Suhana aur Dev ke beech main Sonakshi aa gayi.." Whaaaaaaat? 😲😲 Who came between who??? 😡😡 And Bijoy was like "This is our family matter, don't get Dev into it" What the heck? 😡😡  Ishwari's growing insecurity is well going overboard already! And I fail to understand how she can fail to understand a simple fact that there is no grand daughter Suhana without mom Sonakshi?? And I am also very disturbed by the fact that Bijoy wants to keep Suhana away from her dad. When he himself is a dad, how can he even think of separating Dev from Suhana, especially after the little child has expressed her love for her papa.. Well.. there is just no point in discussing about these old people. Its waste of time. And I hope Dev and Sonakshi will also ignore all these stupid things around them and concentrate on their daughter only.

In today's competitive and highly demanding world, even if both parents slog, we still cant fulfill all the needs of a child. My husband and I often talk about how parenting is too different from the time we were kids.. It now almost seems  to me that every child needs atleast 2 dads and 2 moms. There are plenty of things that the parents these days have to meet apart from "Financial" and "taking care of home"... One parent must be exclusively assigned for giving that extra coaching to meet the pressures of the school! And one parent to go on the mission to make their child the best in "Sports", "Music", "Art" and the infinite co-curricular options!!! So, I am surprised how single parents even pull it off!! 🤔🤔 Dev and Sonakshi have made the right decision of doing it together for their daughter no matter how hard it may get! 

When a good friend of mine was going through a divorce, I advised her to really consider again, because as husband and wife we have all the rights to get separated or even kill each other and go to prison! But as father and mother, we don't have any rights to screw up the emotions and future of our children. Every child needs a dad and a mom. Period.  I am 100% sure that Dev and Sona will come with bright and flying colors as the "Bestest parents". In that process, Ishwari's "I will make my grand daughter a Dixit child" will only go into a million unidentifiable pieces!! GKB and Vicky will only end up drinking tons of water after the encounter with the "Choti mirchi" (tiny chilli!!") 😂 Sonakshi's strong and straightforward personality is enough to handle Bijoy!

Before I wrap this week's write up, some scenes that really need a special mention:
1. Dev and Sonakshi's open discussion in front of Sona's house sitting down in the side path - I really loved how this scene has been conceived ❤️ 👏🏻 👏🏻

2. Suhana's crisp and to-the-point explanation to her papa and mom about how she loves both and how she just cannot choose one. 🤗

3. The encounter of both families together in front of Dev-Sona-Soha and how the Trio made a stand that they are now a family and need some decision making powers and how Asha and mama ji supported them!! 👍🏻👍🏻

4. The coffee scene in Dev's office between Dev and Sonakshi for the lighter moments and yet some thought provoking discussion about man-woman equality!👌🏻👌🏻

5. The final scene in front of Sonakshi's house where he reminds himself that this is the nth time he is standing there.. In the past he had come there as a boss, a friend, a boy friend, a "pagal aashiq", and pati.. However, he is now there only as "papa" and nothing else!! Well.. any man can become a father.. it takes someone as special as Dev to become a dad 😊

6. Being the Shaheer fan that I am, all those stylish bike scenes that brought a teenage smile on my face 😍😄 and that last heroic entry into the Bose mansion!!💪🏼 💪🏼

7. The orphanage scene for the powerful message of building a longer table instead of a higher fence when you have more than what you need! On that note, thanks to the fans that participated in our "Be the Change" campaign. Lets try and continue to do more such service to the society that we live in! ❤️

The following week looks so promising with the cute Saurabh Rounita's engagement ceremonies! Dev's stay in the Bose house is definitely going to keep us glued to the TV!

Week 55 - Discovery

The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new things, but in having new eyes to the same things.. One of the best time pass for me with kids is to look up at the clouds and try to spot different shapes and pictures in it! If you have not already done it, try to do it.. its really fun! 😄

Dev and Sonakshi have long given up on each other, or so they think. They have bottled up so much love and hate, so much patience and frustration, so much ease and anger for each other in the last 7 years! Whatever happens now, is only a result of all those unexpressed emotions.. I personally love how the change in them is gradually occurring instead of a filmy "boom" way!.. its almost just like how it happened the first time 😊 The only difference is that, at first, it was a new feeling and now its a familiar feeling, yet seems magically new 💓 The 7 years have brought so many changes to their personality.. because of the pressures of life and family and because of the stress of having to deal it all without each other..😢

They are both in a new zone now - their own zone.. Time has changed them a lot and they are not the same at all. But, the summer camp has paved way for them to look at themselves and at each other with a new set of eyes.. The kids bring a new dimension to it. The whole week was very enjoyable... and I wish the camp can go on for a long time! 

The week started with the beautiful rain sequence! Sonakshi thinking about the old times made the moment even more beautiful and our favorite old soundtrack topped it all 😊 Sonakshi saw the Dev that she had discovered 7 years ago still in tact! But Alas! has she changed? Even the thought of her becoming a moody rude person like the old Mr.Dixit, was so strange to her to accept that she wanted to quickly snap out of it and gave her hand to dance with Dev! A familiar touch, a familiar ease... its only natural that they got lost in thoughts 💖 It was a beautiful moment of rediscovering themselves! 💑 The actors, as always, only outdo themselves👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 Even though the inspiration of the basket ball and rain dance comes from my favorite "Kuch kuch hota hai", I must admit that the charm of Kuch Rang pyar ke aise bhi is unique and admirable 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Who would think that Mr.Dixit, who hardly knew to fold his handkerchief will graduate to make a Kaada? Dev's quick thinking, Ishwari's recipe, Miss.Sharma's assistance in kitchen, and Technology's help - all made the making of Kaada possible! I quickly jotted down the recipe myself, as it seems to have super magic power 💪🏼😁 One of these days, I hope Ishwari will also share the recipe of Besan ka halwa and her signature Kachori..if at all she gets some time off from Radha rani!

Talking about Ishwari - She mentioned one of the beautiful life lessons for parents that day... Parents are not born parents..they only learn over time. Its so true that they, in fact grow with kids and learn from their own mistakes!! Every kid is different and therefore every parent has a new lesson to learn. It looked to me that her own advice to Dev sparked a thought in her mind... I wish she would introspect on her mistakes...of being over possessive and not allowing another girl in Dev's life... Ishwari spoke about how parents are always anxious whether they are spoiling the kids by giving too much love..or hurting them by scolding more.. 100% true words.. we never know what is right..we constantly learn from our own mistakes..How I wish, she will look at herself and her son with new set of eyes and step aside for Sona and Suhana to get into her son's life... After all, Ishwari is the woman and mother, who brought up her kids single handedly and was the reason for Dev's success. She was the woman that Sonakshi admired and respected!! She is basically a good human being.. But why does she fail to realize the injustice done to Sonakshi? Up until this moment, she only considers Sonakshi as an enemy in her and her son's life. Sona had always respected Ishwari and was longing for her love and in return all she got was only Ishwari's hatred! Completely unfair.😒😢

Seeing mother-in-laws like Ishwari and father-in-laws like Bijoy, I often wonder if today's "nuclear family" set up is because of the intolerance of the younger generation or because of the interference of the older generation.. 🤔

Back in the camp, Sonakshi discovered a new Dev that day.. A Dev that she always wanted to see...A man who is not dependent on anyone for anything. Dev's kitchen skills is just one of the things that took Sonakshi by surprise. Dev's adept way of convincing his daughter to drink the Kaada with his magical superpower story was lovely ❤️😲  The experience Dev had with bringing up Golu has reformed him into a "Dad" even without becoming a dad.

Sonakshi was obviously impressed with Dev.. and the moment of the silent awkwardness was there! It reminded me of a time, long ago, before their marriage when Dev was telling Sona that this moment of "silent awkwardness" will never come in their life, as they can talk anything they want 😒😢  Nevertheless, for us fans, even those few silent seconds were enough to have an "Awwwww" moment!

Just like the rain dance, the dumb charades was also a reminder to me of the old times.. Who can forget the epic "Titanic" pose? Dev has really changed you see! He could sign "Dil chahtha hai" with just a single act.. and crack the "I love you" with just the first word!! And the awkwardness continued...But it definitely paved way for the resistance to reduce and be able to atleast tolerate the presence of each other around...😊

Golu and Soha also got to see a new side of Dev and Sonakshi. Apart from the fact that the kids did exceedingly well, I want to stop and congratulate the makers for keeping the kids as kids 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Because of the exposure of TV and movies, kids these days know a lot more than we used to know as kids. But still, its really good to see Golu and Soha asking the just right questions in the just right kiddish way and I also love how Dev and Sona answered them with the appropriate yet close to reality answers! 

Dev's "I hate her" was more emotional than Sona's "I am sorry Soha..but your mom and dad cannot live together!" But, we know that Dev has always been the more emotional of the two. And therefore, the "I love you" from the dumb charades was still lingering in his mind and this was the only way for him to get over it!!

The snake episode that followed gave a newer outlook of Dev and Sona to the kids and also to themselves!

I am dead scared of snakes, just like Dev. Just writing about it now, makes me want to look around the floor to check whether there is anything near my feet..😒😢 But thank God for the comedy track!! 🙏🏼

"Dads are most ordinary men turned by Love into superheroes, adventurers, story tellers and singers" 💪🏼 - Dev was just an ordinary man who wanted his daughter to call him "papa" and more importantly wanted to make sure her daughter was safe and not threatened by a snake that night. And so, he let go of that fear for snake because his thought of not being there for Soha was more fearful for him.. Letting go of the fear for snake was something he probably never thought he could do! For some reason, it reminded me of the DevkiDeewangi part.. Then and now, he was naturally pushed by his fear of losing his love.. Then and now, he became blindly fearless and faced the storm. Whats different is that at that time, he was a victim of his emotions but now he has learnt to fight his emotions..  

The snake episode, not just brought out the fearlessness in Dev, but also brought out the possessiveness of Sona. Calling Dev Mr.Abhodro after a long time definitely touched the untouched part of Dev's heart! Only lovers can miss even the chiding of their loved ones!! Her running to rescue Dev definitely gave strong messages to the moms of the other kids..:)

After a very long time, I laughed so hard that day for every moment of Dev and Sona in that room with the snake!!😂😂😂  Finally, Ex-GKB did something that I can give her some credit for!! Shaheer and Erica have great chemistry in their comic timing as well!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

The familiar touch and familiar ease continued... Familiar acts are just beautiful in Love ❤️ I read in some fan's comments that if only these two are left alone for sometime, they will figure it all out. Very true.😬

The new side of Dev, Sona and even the kids definitely came out this week. But it looks like GKB will always remain the same!! Her interference in Saurabh's fiancè was the typical GKB we have been seeing since the beginning!! Saurabh and Ronita are really cute and I like this couple a lot. I hope that whatever happened this week does not affect their relationship.. For a change, I liked Bijoy when he confronted the Dixit family and put in front of Ishwari the black as black! And I also loved how GKB got exposed to Ishwari!  Atleast with the arrival of Soha, the Bose family's existence is getting some acknowledgement from Ishwari!!

I wonder how long will Radha rani keep influencing Ishwari or I should rather put it as how long will Ishwari be influenced by Radha rani? For as long as you are ready to get fooled, people who fool you, will not cease to exist! Its only upto Ishwari!! And "Keeping Sonakshi away from the Dixit home" project which was scrapped 7 years ago, was reopened again this week - thanks to GKB's stirring skill and Ishwari's insecurities!

While this is happening in Ishwari Niwas, the 2 young flawless souls asked the stars to somehow get Dev and Sonakshi together so that they can all live under the same roof...❤️ Little do they know the difference between good and evil. Neither do they know the wicked intentions of the elders!! The kids bring out the flavor of innocence, the innocent flavor of Love to Dev and Sona's relationship. These 2 kids are extremely cute and are acting extremely well! I am on "TeamGoluSoha" and will support all that they wish for 😊

The dialogue writers of this show get 5 stars this week, especially for the Friday episode! Extremely profound dialogues!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
"Jab hamara bheega rishta bhi nafrat ki aag mein jal gaya..toh ye lakdiyan kya cheez hai!"
"Rishte todne se ehsaas nahi katam hota hain.."
"Aur kuch log, buri yaadon ke saath jeena seekh lete hain"
"Haq apno ko dete hai.. jo chod ke chale jate..unhe nahi"
"Aur main toh tumhari apni kabhi thi hi nahi"
"I hate you!" "I hate you too!"
--- just to list a few...

The historical "chalne ki thameez nahi hai tho" dialogue came back again, but with a role reversal - symbolic of Dev being the cool dude now and Sona the Ms.Abhodro? Dev has made a fence around himself and within it, he doesn't allow anyone. He has taken a "Cool dude" avatar for the last 7 years!! But he cant fool Sonakshi with this Avatar. She can see through that and feel the pain that he is in, because she is also undergoing the same pain that he is experiencing..

What became clear that night through the beautiful dialogues was that - Sonakshi has learnt to withstand that pain by becoming a rock. Dev has learnt to reduce the effects of the pain on him, by developing a false bravado and quick wit for things around him. But this pretension of the two is only for the outside world... Even their "I hate you" sounds like "I love you so much!" ❤️😍😄 

But in that solitude of the night, this fence broke be it for a for a few seconds as they relived their old selves.. calling each other with the same fondness they had 7 years ago - only to be shaken by the reality too soon...Shaheer as Dev and Erica as Sonakshi have gone into the skin of the characters they are playing and any amount of admiration and praise they get is only less 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

One question that Sonakshi asked that night was profound! Dev now wants to stand up and fight for his rights on Suhana. Had he stood up and owned Sonakshi 7 years ago and not let her go so easily... theirs would also be one happy family! Sona hit the hammer on the nail head with this remark.. Dev had always been the overly possessive sort of lover and husband. However, when it mattered the most, he did not show that possessiveness. A wife gets into a marriage with the strong trust on husband that he will stand by her and protect her in the new territory that she is entering, leaving behind her parents. Its a big let down for a woman when her husband asks her to leave without any further discussion...Its like letting go in the middle of a big ocean! It breaks her morale and self confidence down and it takes a very strong woman and a very long time, to collect herself up and march forward in life. Sonakshi went through this because of Dev. The 2 flashback scenes that were flashed to Dev were the apt ones that clearly pointed his mistakes to him! And he did not have any answers for her, except to stop and divert the discussion. She did it alone all along and does not need his hands now.💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

At the end of the week, Dev and Sonakshi definitely have started perceiving themselves and each others differently.  Will this subdued anger reduce their repulsion and allow them to talk more in the coming weeks? The precap seems very promising. Suhana is making the right moves for getting her mama and papa to reconcile. A friend told me after Soha said "I can live with you only if you both live together", what if she added "Agar, main aisi wali beti hoti tho!!" 🤔🤔
I  Hope not 😄

And my wish is that Dev and Sona should get together because of the love they have for each other, not just because of Suhana..I love Suhana, no doubt. But I Love the Love of Dev and Sonakshi 😄❤️ and I want that to live on for eternity!